Some advice please

[Athos]

Okay basically I'm at the point now where I can approach chicks fairly easily, and number closing isn't that hard.

The problem is I'm getting numbers but really they aren't going anywhere. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong exactly. I read pretty much everything I could on PUA say, 4 or 5 months ago? Not sure.

I had really bad social anxiety and just talking to any new person, even at a social venue was really hard. Now I go up and talk to any hot girl and I can just say 'hey, I'm erik, nice to meet you.' or what ever.

It's just... even if/when I number close don't get texts back or y'know it doesn't really go anywhere.

So what I want to know is, if I was a completely new to PUA which I guess in some ways I am - even though I've come a hell of a long way, what should I be focusing on now? What's my next step, so to speak.

Give me some general idea's as to what I should be thinking about because I don't want to get boggled by too much information which is what I did to myself when I started... and over complicated the whole thing too much.

And I hope this is some motivation for people - the very thought of talking to someone new made me sweat... but now, it's hardly a problem.

No matter how bad it is, keep hope and don't lose your motivation. Just be PATIENT and keep trying to change the way you think and you WILL improve.

Cheers

 

[loveshogun]

Improve your product, and things will just fall into place.

Approach technique and all that other stuff is just your foot in the door. It's important, no doubt, but you need to have something to sell after you get your 5 minutes of pitch time.

People in general enjoy the energy that comes off of those who go after what they want in life.

If you follow this advice, you will be awesome in a few years (and still improving), and your question will change to "how do I get all these women I don't want to stop calling?"

 

[spinaroonie]

Once upon a time, before caller ID and texting - getting a girl's number was a big deal. You were virtually guaranteed a date. "Flaking" didn't exist in the playa vocabulary - a "flake" was something you got with dandruff.

Nowadays numbers are meaningless. Girls will give out their numbers like candy on Halloween.

Having said that, how long are you staying in set with these girls? You want to qualify her, compliment her on something besides her looks, and build a genuine connection and rapport. Stay in set for at least 20 minutes. This should reduce flaking.

 

[spinaroonie]

Some good advice here on phone game and avoiding flakes:

http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17289

from www.justinwaynepua.com

More great advice:

http://askjdog.com/losing-my-connection-can-you-feel-me-now/

 

[Maxfarsigth]

And I hope this is some motivation for people - the very thought of talking to someone new made me sweat... but now, it's hardly a problem.

No matter how bad it is, keep hope and don't lose your motivation. Just be PATIENT and keep trying to change the way you think and you WILL improve.

Thanks bro. That actually helped responding a recent thread of mine.
Endeed, the correct answer is: keep trying!

 

[Athos]

Cheers man.

Basically, thinking about all the sets I've opened in the last couple of weeks...

All other game theory has gone out the window l0l. Makes sense why I've been having so many flakes.

As far as how long am I staying in... well that varies aye. Sometimes it's 5 minutes, sometimes 30.

I'm spinning a couple plates at the moment but I guess I'm not sure where I'm going y'know?

Basically it looks like I need to do a **** load of reading, haha.

When I posted this I was a bit frustrated, lol. I thought the hard part was approaching and just talking to them.

Okay so some major things I should be considering - qualifying them? Compliment on other than looks and trying to build connection?

Ah this seems pointless. I guess there's just too much information out there. I was just worried I'd get overwhelmed with the info and step back into my old self - the one that didn't want to try something if he couldn't do it "perfect", a source of considerable anxiety .

And cheers Max. Yeah, though it sounds corny, sometimes the road is pretty tough, but just anything you do, even the smallest step towards it - whether it's asking a stranger for the time, trying to be more sociable, even holding eye contact more - all of it will eventually lead to great things.

Thanks everyone for the input.