"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Some advice for the socially shy!

Beethoven

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From what I can tell, there's a whole bunch of guys reading this SoSuave forum that have got honestly dire social lives. With few to no friends, or friends of a very low standard.

Well that pretty much includes me as well! Due to a whole bunch of things happening in my past, I became very shy around people generally. Now I could still pull girls (cause my urge to be with them drove me on!) but girls who fancy you make very temporary pals.

I think you gotta realise that people aren't half as scary to meet as you think. I took my backside down to a pub this evening (all by myself) and just started asking pairs of people if they wanted to play me at pool, two against one. I met some great people and walked out with two phone numbers. Not phone numbers of girls who fancied me, just people to meet as friends.

The key was believing that it wasn't as hard as that to meet new people, all you gotta do is say hello and make some simple small talk.

Now some of you might wonder what the point of this post is, cause it seems to have nothing to do with pulling girls. Well, if you don't have friends, you'll not be happy, which will make it harder. Also, you'll have no social proof (which might be especially important in the UK, where I am).

I just wanted to encourage you guys that it's easier to meet new people than you think! Now drag yourselves away from the TV in the evening and find a friendly pub!

(Hmm... Maybe this should be in Tips... Moderators, feel free to move!)

--> Beethoven
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ryanvalmont

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I also agree with this 100%...get out there and make new friends,then maybe you can show them the ropes in becomming ya wingman...or not ehhehe

I'm one unsociable tat...i guess i can use Euro 2004 to goto the pub this mon or tuesday or something.
 
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