"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Soft Rejection

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Hi all please note age is wrong on profile - I'm 38. Loved reading these forums in the past.

Newly single, back checking out the market. It's been 9 years, so I'm rusty and looking for a consult. Invited girl out on on the waverunners. The excuse I got was not one i've had in the past. Said she wasn't sure about it in general. Seemed unsure if she'd like the experience or be comfortable with it. Outside of that, ear to ear smiles when talking, hanging out, etc.

Bail or keep trying? I rolled with it and said no problem. Ended up going and having a great time anyways.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Great point. It was cheap as I own them but by no means simple or easy. Reapproach another time or pass? I frequent this place so I don't want to #### where I eat if I come off like a tool.
 

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There is nothing wrong with asking her for a drink or some thing in a couple weeks. Just keep everything real casual with first dates. Easy, cheap no pressure.
 

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The bigger the date plans, the more likely she is to think you are doing it so she "owes you" and puts out.... Keep it small and simple.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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