Originally posted by ElvisthePrez
Here's my question about nexting.
Some say ignore chicks, some say that's AFC.
Some say don't next chicks, some say that's AFC.
Some say it shows confidence if you next chicks, some say it show weakness if you do.
Some say give the soft next, some say the hard next.
I guess it all depends on the situation, but does anyone think just the idea of nexting is weird? It's like completely cutting someone off, which seems kind of harsh. Isn't better to keep as many chicks in play as possible? Especially since being easy-going, but not a wuss, is a very attractive trait to women.
You're obviously new here... welcome.
It makes sense with thousands of members, hundreds of thousands of posts, and many different styles of seduction or 'being DJ' that your gonna come across some conflicting information.
Here's my opinion on nexting and everything :
When the average person comes to this site, its usually because he requires this information, also its probably because he is QUITE AFC. I which case, He is used to buying the love from a girl, or just generally not knowing how to handle himself with women, or this person just has little experience in approaching women with the intent of dating them... I'm hallucinating that this is roughly your situation.
Anyway, whoever said to ignore chicks as a way of macking... rediculous.
Sometimes it's necessary to next a chick, maybe because she's got a lot of red flags waving. In these situations, it would be... not afc... rather STUPID not to next.
Your confidence has NOTHING to do with NEXTing a girl, but HOW, WHEN, and WHY you next a girl is where you demonstrate your confidence.
Hard Next and Soft Next are simply different strategies for dealing with a prospect that is either losing interest or is a lost cause, so to speak, as either a tactic for her to regain interest, or to show you that it's time to go out macking again.
Nexting in itself is not harsh, but how you next a girl can be harsh... I usually won't tell a girl that she's lost her chance... with exceptions.
You want to keep as many GOOD leads as possible, while at the same time cutting out as much of the BAD leads as possible.
Honestly though, if you don't next a girl often, SHE will next YOU... sometimes you will get rejected... sometimes you will be on your game. But, it's how you act ... lemme tell you a story.
This person I know, ALWAYS mentions the fights that he's been in, and how he's mostly won. He seems very confident, and can often pull many of the HOTTEST women. However, the time came to back up what he was saying, and he crumpled over at the site of the dude... WHO WAS HALF THE SIZE! Despite the fact that this was the same person who had slept with his girlfriend not two months earlier. Behind it all he is a complete wuss, and after seeing that display, it's become a simple task to see his wussiness, which is well hidden, and leads to his girlfriends cheating on him (3 out of the past 3).
Maybe that'll clear things up... PM me if you have more questions.