"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sociopaths: A great success with the ladies

ketostix

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watertiger said:
Real serial killers get love letters from women (How nutty is that?? ??)
That illustrates my point, not many men are known to send admiration letters to "evil" women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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danielzxc said:
Clearly you have done a lot of thinking about the "finer" qualities of sociopaths. So much so that I believe you've come to idolize them. I guess that's why the urge to start threads on them hits you every month or so.

But okay, let's think for a bit about sociopaths. And let us ask ourselves what makes civilization -- and all the benefits of living in civilization -- possible. The sociopath may be able to get ahead by cheating the system, but it's the non-sociopaths who make that system possible. It was men of a moral bent who brought order to chaos, not utterly self-absorbed socio/pyschopaths. Civilization depends on people who do care about consequences, who spend quite some time predicting the consequences of differing courses of action and then selecting the more beneficient ones. Sure, everybody cares about "number 1", but some people think it a good thing to care about numbers 2 to 6 billion, also. Maybe such people are "suckers", but I bet you you wouldn't like life much without them.

I say all that because it's pretty clear to me that the underlying message in these sociopath threads is "you want women? then you, too, should be a psychopath! (or at least act like one as much as you can)". I guess society has been heeding this message, because we're rapidly reaching the point (if we're not already there) where getting sex is considered pretty much the only important thing in life. And since getting more sex is more easily accomplished by deceit and utter lack of regard for consequences of actions, "sociopathic" kind of behavior more regularly takes place. The conclusion that all this causes a decline in civility is impossible to escape.

I once pointed out to you that sociopathic behavior is more prevalent in the lower strata of society. You took issue with that. But since inability or unwillingness to consider consequences is obviously a key part of the behavior you talk about, people for whom "thinking" and "reflecting" -- of the "deeper" kind -- is an alien or "nerdy" activity are far more likely to be seduced by the prospects more sex by following your kind of advice (and the "feels good? do it!" message of our popular culture).
Great points. Sometimes I feel like I'm the sole voice of conscience on this forum. You've (and a few others) have proven me wrong. Thank you.
 

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saber said:
a comprehensive beginners guide to becoming a sociopath


Sociopathy. The word makes "good" people cringe. It is a very real syndrome that affects young and old. In general there are ten real symptoms:
Not learning from experience.
No sense of responsibility.
Inability to form meaningful relationships.
Inability to control impulses.
Lack of moral sense.
Chronically antisocial behavior.
No change in behavior after punishment.
Emotional immaturity.
Lack of guilt.
Self-centeredness.
If you are a sociopath you probably don't know it, but if you want to be a sociopath and have fun unlike all the other blockheads in the world, then this is the recipe for you.

The scary thing is you've just described my entire personality... I had a thread a while back about discovering my psychopathic tendencies and the realization that Don Juan himself was a psycho. Others have refered to him as an homme-fatale or Byronic Hero.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Femme_fatale

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Byronic_hero

I donno about your examples they're a bit extreme, but definately not showing excessive attention to women and talking to a lot of them makes them chase after you.

It's one of the techniques the femme fatales use to ensnare their victims:

In social life, the femme fatale tortures her lover in an asymmetrical relationship, denying confirmation of her affection. She usually drives him to the point of obsession and exhaustion so that he is incapable of making rational decisions.
 

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ketostix said:
That illustrates my point, not many men are known to send admiration letters to "evil" women.
MEN? No...But we all know AFC's who write love poetry and keep Hallmark in business panting after a lovely, vicious b!tch who toys with his heart.
 
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