"Just be yourself my friend..."
How many times have you heard this answer ? It might have occurred when you asked a girl friend for advice on how to get a girl or if you asked how to talk.
Being yourself from my perspective means that you do not follow the script of the society but instead you do what you feel like. The script of the society includes answering right away and exactly what you were asked for. But when you do not care about it you don't answer right away, maybe a few second pause and you do not answer exactly but you give it a joke.
Society Script:
Question: "Where were you yesterday ?"
Answer: "I went to the movies with my mates."
Being Independent of the Society Scripts:
Question: "Where were you yesterday ?"
Answer ... with a little pause ... : "I got kidnapped by some twelve year olds. They were beating the hell outta me until I promised them to buy them a Playboy magazine."
We are used to hop on things right away. We don't let our minds be who they are! We're being toyed with what society and media wants. The same goes with dating. You are supposed to bring your girl on a date in a restaurant just because you've seen it in the movies and you don't even think if there are any other possibilities. You've seen it and now you think that's the right way. But it's not! It could be anything you want. Go with her for a walk at midnight in the darkest forest you know! Perfect date which you wanted by yourself without following that "YOU SHOULD DO".
Not many people actually live like they want to. In fact they don't even know that they don't. They're just being sucked in what others find POLITE and what the media shows them. So ask yourself. Do you actually want what the media wants you to have ? Do you actually want what others want you to want ? Are you being toyed by all these factors ?
Do not let others dictate how you should live. If your friend is sad because he has some problems. And you are very happy at the moment you see him. Don't be sucked into his sad world and become sad and all worried about him. Be relentlessly independent. Let your world dominate. Don't let him make you sad, make him happy instead! You chose how you'll feel and think in every moment of your being.
"Don't get sucked into thinkings/feelings of other people/society/media. Be relentlessly independent and your own rule maker."
How many times have you heard this answer ? It might have occurred when you asked a girl friend for advice on how to get a girl or if you asked how to talk.
Being yourself from my perspective means that you do not follow the script of the society but instead you do what you feel like. The script of the society includes answering right away and exactly what you were asked for. But when you do not care about it you don't answer right away, maybe a few second pause and you do not answer exactly but you give it a joke.
Society Script:
Question: "Where were you yesterday ?"
Answer: "I went to the movies with my mates."
Being Independent of the Society Scripts:
Question: "Where were you yesterday ?"
Answer ... with a little pause ... : "I got kidnapped by some twelve year olds. They were beating the hell outta me until I promised them to buy them a Playboy magazine."
We are used to hop on things right away. We don't let our minds be who they are! We're being toyed with what society and media wants. The same goes with dating. You are supposed to bring your girl on a date in a restaurant just because you've seen it in the movies and you don't even think if there are any other possibilities. You've seen it and now you think that's the right way. But it's not! It could be anything you want. Go with her for a walk at midnight in the darkest forest you know! Perfect date which you wanted by yourself without following that "YOU SHOULD DO".
Not many people actually live like they want to. In fact they don't even know that they don't. They're just being sucked in what others find POLITE and what the media shows them. So ask yourself. Do you actually want what the media wants you to have ? Do you actually want what others want you to want ? Are you being toyed by all these factors ?
Do not let others dictate how you should live. If your friend is sad because he has some problems. And you are very happy at the moment you see him. Don't be sucked into his sad world and become sad and all worried about him. Be relentlessly independent. Let your world dominate. Don't let him make you sad, make him happy instead! You chose how you'll feel and think in every moment of your being.
"Don't get sucked into thinkings/feelings of other people/society/media. Be relentlessly independent and your own rule maker."