Socializing 101

[Styles]

After a long haitus I am back, this time with help for budding DJ's who are socially inept.

Our goals as DJ's are self-actualization (realizing your potential), and communication.

Yes that's right. Communication.

What good are muscles, money, cars, houses, grades, degrees, etc, if you can't carry on a conversation or maintain a healthy
relationship?

Let's start out with the first step to socializing...Preparation

 

[Cheatz]

Ah my weakest strength... I hope this gets complete soon

 

[Sniper2k]

Well, lets see. Preperation seems to be easy enough. The key to it all is gathering as much interesting knowledge/experiences as you can for you to share. Read lots of books/magazines, watch some good shows on tv, go out and do things you never tried before, stay informed of current events, anything at all can be discussed as long as you say what you mean and mean what you say.

However, I think you may be refering to mental preperation so you won't be shy/anxious when talking. In that case, yo gotta realize there's nothing to be afraid of when talking to people. As long as you're not trying to disrespect them they'll be receptive to your attempts. Understand that attention is the greatest gift you can give a person. People WANT to be approached and make friends/lovers. It makes them feel great for their presence is acknowledged by another, making them feel loved, appreciated, attractive, accepted, blah blah blah.

Its extremely common for a person to put their guard up when talking to other people. If you show them that you're relaxed and unafraid to be yourself, SO WILL THEY.

Talk to EVERYBODY too, get to know different kinds of people so you know how to handle all sorts of encounters later on. The more you do it the easier it becomes, you just gotta get yourself out there and JUST DO IT. Another thing, if your not enjoying yourself you're doing it all wrong. Convos are supposed to feel good or enlightening. Your either having fun with the person cracking jokes/telling stories or your learning something new.

Now go on and conversate you damn chatterboxes.

 

[R3N3G4D3]

If its mental preparation, like telling yourself that you can do it and trying to come up witht he right moment, then you would be better off without it. The more time you spend planning out your moves, the more you will hesitate when you actually approach someone, especially if something doesn't go as you planned originally. The best thing to do would be to just come up when you feel like it, when you know you're calm without spending too much time trying to analyze anything.

 

[Need-2-B-Pimpin]

What about when you lack anything to say? Example: I go play basketball with some guys (pop crowd) from my school after school on fridays and often the chatter after the game is about whoever did whoever or whatever and so on...I listen in and all, but I never have jack sh!t to say.

 

[crunchtime]

Originally posted by Need-2-B-Pimpin
What about when you lack anything to say? Example: I go play basketball with some guys (pop crowd) from my school after school on fridays and often the chatter after the game is about whoever did whoever or whatever and so on...I listen in and all, but I never have jack sh!t to say.

Why don't you have anything to say? Find out what these guys are doing over the weekend and chill with them. Break in with a few jokes about the people they're talking about.
"You guys hear about John ****in Kim?"
---"Yea it doesn't surprise me, that girl's busted" if "John" is notorious for getting with ugly chicks.

or "Evvvvvveryone's gotten with Kim, who cares?" if "Kim" is a slut.

All you have to do with this is know the people and just make some jokes.