Social Skills

[Doggystyle]

I was just writing this for myself and thought i would post it up here too, its kind of like my frame work to social skills which i try to abide by. Cos i've got a cr@p memory i decided to write it down so i can review from time to time.
I'm constantly adding stuff to it on my word document and changing stuff around so if it changes too much i'll just repost my updated one on the same thread.

Improving Social Skills:

Socialise with as many people as possible

Smile and be super warm and friendly towards people, like you are genuinely glad to see them

Try to give everyone attention

Really truly listen to what people have to say so you can say something relevant

People like to be touched…..obviously within reason!

Be interested in what people have to say, and if you can’t and are trying to get something out of it, pretend to be interested!

Don’t ask close ended questions, ask open ended questions and make more statements about yourself, too much of either isn’t good, keep it the conversations equal exchange

Don’t leave conversations on a high point, there is no high point

Act as if you have already been asked by the person when you tell them something, how does that feel? What was it like?

Talk loud

Talk a lot

Be passionate about what you are talking about

 

[synergy1]

this is an interesting and often overlooked topic that has shaped my game with women a great deal. The idea of being social is being able to convay a genuine interest in someone else, and putting a great deal of effort into fostering a relationship with them, platonic or otherwise. 95% of people will respond favorably to someone with high energy, and genuine effort. The ones who do not, you do not want as good friends anyway; I know this from experience. it takes effort..effort most will not put in. Careful observation and practice are required for some of us who initially were trained to be quiet and submissive.

 

[ScrewIt]

this is an interesting and often overlooked topic that has shaped my game with women a great deal. The idea of being social is being able to convay a genuine interest in someone else, and putting a great deal of effort into fostering a relationship with them, platonic or otherwise. 95% of people will respond favorably to someone with high energy, and genuine effort. The ones who do not, you do not want as good friends anyway; I know this from experience. it takes effort..effort most will not put in. Careful observation and practice are required for some of us who initially were trained to be quiet and submissive.

I find that to be true in most situations. People want to be around optimistic friendly guys, including girls. Again this goes back to judging a book by its cover, if you appear approachable and open you're already off on a good start, hence why body language is utmost important. Personality is always important as well.

you can only be one or the other of the magnet: the side that pulls and attracts, or the other side that repels.

One of the utmost importance i believe in being a great socializer is bringing out the best in others, such as making them feel included and giving credit where its due. Only insecure people will hate you/avoid you, you dont need those around.
This strength again falls back on being a great leader, do you follow or lead by example?...set the bar, a great leader doesnt make others believe in him, he makes them believe in themselves.

 

[Sjakapai]

niceee

 

[Freddy1]

This is a very GOOD post Doggystyle!
You need social skills to make it with women or they will think your weird.