"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Social Skills at Work - Requesting some insight

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So yesterday at work I was in a conversation with a couple of my co-workers, another dude and a woman, all around 23-25 age range. We were discussing the specifics of a product, and the other dude said it's price: "Oh it costs X," and such and such. I recalled that the price was actually different than what he mentioned (and it was important because it was the focus of the discussion), and said: "Uh wait, I thought the price was Y" The girl then said to me (in a rather challenging/rude manner) "Well why don't you go check the price then?" I was like "I mean...I could check I suppose" - I went and checked the price (and turned out to be correct >_>), kinda just giving in.

Anyway, my question is how should one respond to this kind of statement (challenging and maybe a bit disrespectful)? I feel like I didn't have the social acumen to give an appropriate retort, and kinda just keeled over without putting up resistance. These kinds of situations pop up all the time (definitely a recurring thing with women), and I'm wondering how I can effectively respond as a socially adept man.

It may seem small, but these sorts of events kinda eat at my pride (even at work, which is thought to be a purely professional environment, but even still I notice these dynamics coming into play), and it's likely I'm being too accommodating; I feel like there's a better way to stand up for myself, somehow. Do y'all have any thoughts/advice/insight?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do what she would do, file a report to HR explaining how your feelings are hurt and it stressed you out how she spoke to you. be detailed about what she did exactly. be the victim. beat these fks at their own game.

personally I wouldnt go that route, but what I would have done on the spot is "Excuse me _____, but you dont need to speak to me in a disrespectful tone like that. This is a professional setting and our actions should reflect that by using courtesy and respect when interacting. Thank you, and for 100% confirmation I will definitely go check and let you guys know." Then I would go double check, come back with the victorious information and a calm but smug look on my face. Ownage.

The point is to stop disrespect as soon as it starts. If she thinks she can get away talking to you like that, she will push it even further in the future and your other coworker there saw your weakness as well and that will effect their outlook toward you.
 
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