"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Social Psychology Rant

everywomanshero

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On sosuave, we can see a number of different perspectives on socialization, especially in reagrds to male-female relationships. Before we all go crazy and declare the human experience nothing more than surviving and reproducing, I thought to look at other perspectives (with emphasis on sosuave-relevant subjects):

Socialcultural Perspective: Individuals are affected by group level factors. Focus is on social norms (which can quickly change) and culture.
SOSUAVE EXAMPLE: "Being Asian makes it hard to pickup chix." threads

Evolutionary Perspective: Assumes that human social behaviors are rooted in physical and psychological predispositions that helped our ancestors survive and reproduce.
SOSUAVE EXAMPLE: "Girl's are driven by unconcious motivation to score" threads.

Social Learning Perspective: Behavior is driven by past experiences with rewards or punishments. Focus on individual experiences within groups rather than larger social aggregates.
SOSUAVE EXAMPLE: "Don't let her get away with that s$%^& man!" threads or "give her positive rewards for good behavior" threads.

Phenomonological Perspective: Social behavior is driven by subjective interpretations of events in the social world. The interpretations are related to one's goals. People do not discover reality, they invent it.
SOSUAVE EXAMPLE: Bet you can all think of many to go here.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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everywomanshero said:
Evolutionary Perspective: Assumes that human social behaviors are rooted in physical and psychological predispositions that helped our ancestors survive and reproduce.
SOSUAVE EXAMPLE: "Girl's are driven by unconcious motivation to score" threads.
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I figure most of it comes down to this. My philosophy is people are attracted to people who, if we were still living in the woods, swamps and deserts of Africa like we did 100,000 years ago would be people who have healthy genes, are fertile, will help raise the kids and whose kids will survive into adulthood and have an easy time mating themselves.

Take Jack Osbourne. He has sex with beautiful women despite being ugly with a bad personality. I am sure on some level when women are/were throwing themselves at Ozzy they were doing it because they knew no matter how their kid turned out he'd be able to get sex on demand just by being the son of a famous person.
 

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Interesting and accurate perspective. All in all, each perspective relates to a level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
 
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