"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Social proof

Metro3pilot

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having female friends, does it increase your value ?

can it ever be a bad thing or make you look like a player ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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john_1234

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having attractive female friends will not increase social proof in the eyes of your own circle of friends. it's a different story though in the context of a club setting. you cruise to a club w/ attractive girls, the other girls will take notice and social proof will increase. i doubt that it could ever be a bad thing and you'd probably appear to be a player if you were seen making out w/ each of the girls you're w/
 

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I've had no negative side effects from having social proof. Not only does it help attract other women, but it also helps attract any female that you're using for social proof. It can easily be a win-win situation.

Don't be worried about being labelled a "player". After all, it's only a label and nothing more. Words mean nothing to women who have "feelings" for you.
 

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Not only does having women around increase your social value, but I have a lot more fun when I'm out with women or a mixed group rather than just guys.

The only times I have ever been called a "player" were when the chick wanted to get in my pants. Just like when a chick wonders whether or not you are gay. She has to be THINKING about you in a sexual context for the thought to even cross her mind.

So the answer is no, it's not bad to have that label.
 

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that depends on the situation. i've made more killings hanging with girls than i have with guy pals.

if were talking club settings, then the problem with guys is, their to reserved.
they just look and stare and say look at her.

when your hanging with women their introducing you to her and her and alot of girls are always hitting the dance floor, so when your dancing with them and you wander off to dance with some other girls, if they like you they'll invite, if they don't seem so inviting then just join your group again. they'll be more chicks in rotation
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thomas94305

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Whenever I get a number at a club, just after that, I'll often go dance with a different woman. I did not do it to make the phone number gal jealous, I just didn't want to feel silly standing around. *HOWEVER*, I end up noticing the phone number gal checking me out dancing with the other gal. AND, the phone number gal is far more receptive when I call, and is less likely to flake.

I'm still not settled if I should do this. I am not seeking to make someone jealous. But, I hate the flaking, and I do want to meet up with the gal later from a position of strength.
 

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Well its a lot of energy to have a bunch of female friends.

It is always useful to have all the women around you knowing and liking you though from a social proof standpoint.
 
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