BadBoyCoolMan
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please give me some examples of what social proof is and whether it works. i want to try this at the club and online.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
social proof. what is it and what can i do
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CrunchyNut
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Social proof is knowing people, saying hi to people etc. It shows girls that you are a socially valuable person, and that you are respected.
joey2times
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CrunchyNut said:Social proof is knowing people, saying hi to people etc. It shows girls that you are a socially valuable person, and that you are respected.
Hire a bunch of really cute actresses to come up to you and say "we should hang out sometime" when you're out with a girl you like. Also get a few "important" looking guys to come up to you and say they heard about your big deals and might want to get involved with your company. Pay the club owner or doorman to make a big deal out of you being there.
MAJOR SOCIAL PROOF.
DJ1234
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click on link in sig titled "social proof" its like magic, works wonders and can get you laid!....
DonJoseCantosie
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And at the same time...you don't NEED Social Proof. Sure, its definitely not a bad thing to have, but u don't need it. Just approaching a woman and she responding to u positively and if other women see, thats all the social proof u really need if any.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ready123
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go into a club with just your homies and notice the lukewarm response you get
then go into a club with a platonic female friend who's hot, walk in there french promenade style and notice how much more looks you get
thats social proof brotha
then go into a club with a platonic female friend who's hot, walk in there french promenade style and notice how much more looks you get
thats social proof brotha
DonJoseCantosie
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Ready said it well.
Yep, thats social proof. Just being around girls is enough.
Yep, thats social proof. Just being around girls is enough.
My Name is Nobody
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How about an ex girlfriend stalking you and getting in the face of your current woman in a jealous rage?
Is that social proof?
Is that social proof?
You can make up social proof.
If you're sitting inside a cafe with a girl, and you see a girl sitting outside or standing outside, you could be like "Lets move, I really hate that girl. She use to keep calling me all the time. I dont want her to see me"
If you're sitting inside a cafe with a girl, and you see a girl sitting outside or standing outside, you could be like "Lets move, I really hate that girl. She use to keep calling me all the time. I dont want her to see me"
Agreed it can be faked, another is your phone ringing with a so called girl on the other end whilst you're in the middle of gaming a girl. Remember, girls are interested in illusions rather than the guy himself, they aren't clever enough to judge a guy for themselves.spax said:You can make up social proof.
If you're sitting inside a cafe with a girl, and you see a girl sitting outside or standing outside, you could be like "Lets move, I really hate that girl. She use to keep calling me all the time. I dont want her to see me"
MM
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Monkey
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If you don't pass her looks criteria all the social proof in the world won't help you.
'Social proof' is a buzz word which is thrown around and hugely overated on this site - its pretty unimportant on the scale of things...
'Social proof' is a buzz word which is thrown around and hugely overated on this site - its pretty unimportant on the scale of things...
Snow Plowman
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lol @ guy who brought up looks lol
These guys kill me...anywho, social proof is an external way of showing high value. It doesn't neccessarily mean being seen with a girl its more of if a person was to be looking at you interacting they notice that everyone is reacting to you or everyone is qualifying themselves to you.
This is because a woman can't get to know every guy so if she sees certain guys who have women reacting to him, she'll think there must be something about that guy that has the chick all giggly around him. So half her work is done and so if you opened there would be initial attraction.
Two good examples from my life...
- Back in high school I remember taking a picture with this chick that everyone liked. I CLAWed her in for the picture and everyone was watching me. Then a friend yells out "He didn't FUK her He's a VIRGIN" (inside joke) and everybody in the WHOLE lunch room cracks up as if they were part of the interaction.
- Back in high school I used to always walk arm in arm with two girls in the hallways. Eventually I ended up giving piggy back rides or some times chicks would jump on me from the front and wrap there legs around me. EVERYONE would see this and my value was SUPER High, that I had to actually use bare minimum game because I was Overqualified. All I had to do was say "Hey" and chicks would light up. I remember hearing this one chick yelling and I just walk by saying "Hey, Are you misbehaving" and she goes "No" as I keep walking lol, I then over hear her friend saying "What's that guys name".
Social Proof makes things so much easier...you don't need it but it helps BIG time.
These guys kill me...anywho, social proof is an external way of showing high value. It doesn't neccessarily mean being seen with a girl its more of if a person was to be looking at you interacting they notice that everyone is reacting to you or everyone is qualifying themselves to you.
This is because a woman can't get to know every guy so if she sees certain guys who have women reacting to him, she'll think there must be something about that guy that has the chick all giggly around him. So half her work is done and so if you opened there would be initial attraction.
Two good examples from my life...
- Back in high school I remember taking a picture with this chick that everyone liked. I CLAWed her in for the picture and everyone was watching me. Then a friend yells out "He didn't FUK her He's a VIRGIN" (inside joke) and everybody in the WHOLE lunch room cracks up as if they were part of the interaction.
- Back in high school I used to always walk arm in arm with two girls in the hallways. Eventually I ended up giving piggy back rides or some times chicks would jump on me from the front and wrap there legs around me. EVERYONE would see this and my value was SUPER High, that I had to actually use bare minimum game because I was Overqualified. All I had to do was say "Hey" and chicks would light up. I remember hearing this one chick yelling and I just walk by saying "Hey, Are you misbehaving" and she goes "No" as I keep walking lol, I then over hear her friend saying "What's that guys name".
Social Proof makes things so much easier...you don't need it but it helps BIG time.
I disagree, she may think you're ugly, but if you then have 5 hot girls begging to get into your pants, she will be interested. Women are very fickle and very easily swayed. You just need to know how. Jealousy is one big tool. Girls rarely decide for themselves.Monkey said:If you don't pass her looks criteria all the social proof in the world won't help you.
'Social proof' is a buzz word which is thrown around and hugely overated on this site - its pretty unimportant on the scale of things...
MM