social proof ...friends of a rough environment

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

how do i make friends in this setting?

classic scenario of why i posted this question: i get on a bus similar to greyhound going back to ny. on this bus are college freshmen from my college most of them from the projects. these are testosterone driven always ready to scrap hood ghetto mentality. i know no one on this bus because i am a sophmore so there is no social proof. these guys know each other and the few girls on this bus already know who the alpha males are. what is my first move?

(past scenarios at this point i have started conversations which displayed me as inferior. Before i became a fighter someone who stood up for themselves i would have been stepped to and punked out and after i became a fighter i word have my words twisted and made to look like a fool)

i move around alot so i never really developed social skills and to be totally honest to get the best answer i have a slight deformity which not very often may get me rejected (if she is shallow) but guys capitalize on this fact and because i don't come off as a threat initially i fall prey to jokes and insults

so my questions are how do i make friends with guys like this? (can't choose other friends in this setting you want strong friends) How do i come off as cool? How do i work myself to the top so i can lead dominate and stay in control? and i am a lover not a fighter but i do know how to fight and will throw down to stay some what on top if i need to so when is the right time for fighting? i am just tired of people having this image that i am the pushover soft nice guy that they can walk all over to impress a girl i am not trying to become the bully i am just trying to be respected.

This may be immature thinking of me but i only see to groups the afc's and the alpha males i am not stupid i am going to aim for the alpha male

 

[CaptainJ]

What's your deformity?

If you want to go about befriending the crew, then you gotta befriend the alpha male in isolation. Usually he'll be very social and if you show him that you are funny, brave, down to earth and you have social value, then he'll get on well with you, introduce you to his friends and invite you out. it's hard and you gotta be patient and not invite yourself out with them, otherwise you'll come off as needy.

 

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

thanks umm is there a private message thing on this website i will show u my myspace or facebook i dont really wanna post it on here

im still looking for more advice i need all i can get at this point

 

[CaptainJ]

You don't need to show me, just tell me what we're dealing with here

If you're a total beginner, then the best thing I can suggest to you is get into weightlifting, the benefits are indescribable. (Well they are, I just can be fvcked to list them all out)

 

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

ok well i am missing the point or tip of my nose. its very noticeable and its a great piece for anyone trying to put on a short comedy show. i have got into many fights for this reason alone. to describe it i would say it is like the nose bridge is normal until it gets to the nostrils then its below nostril level with to scars beneath my nose