"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hello guys... i've been in canada for 2.5 years now and i'm 17... well i'm a social guy. i know alotta ppl at school. so if i walked down the hall i would get alot of "hi"s. but no close friends. i don't have alotta hobbies but playing guitar because i have to work alot. i dont watch hockey, not interested in races or cars. and it seems like these things what connects the close friends together. but since i don't have anything like that, idon't have any friends.

yesterday was saturday, and i was sitting home. even though i know alotta ppl, i never talk to them out of school, or never get invited to the parties, unless i try really hard :(.

i don't know what to do... i don't have time to read the bible, so is there any section that i should read about making friends. i'm definitly not a loser but it's just that i don't have close friends, that i can call up, u know what i mean...

some nights (like yesterday) i feel really lonely, cuz nothing to do...

is there any thoughs or suggestion,advices... plz hlp me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NEWBIE101

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I'm sure that if you are friendly with as many people as you say you are, they wouldn't mind hanging out with you. Just see what they're doing one night and ask them to do something with you.

Even better would be to have a party, organize a football game, have a poker tournament at your house, etc.
 
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PiHiPlaya

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read the bible in bits and pieces when you can, if you are sitting home feeling lonely because you have nothing do than you DO have time to read the bible. Don't make excuses like that to not the bible.... just do it.

What do you do for work that you have no time on your hands?
 
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I have the same problem, but I am getting much better. Last night i took twins HB7 to a dance then they showed me a party, so you just have to organize you own stuff.
 
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Heizen

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You also need to chill with people outside of school. If you know alot of people its no big deal to say "Lets chill this weekend, go pick up girls or something" Once you start to build alot of out of school friends like that (and actually chilling with them) you get invited to things.

Least thats how it worked for me :-D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yeah, I've been meeting all kinds of different ppl because of hanging with kids from other schools...Its definately gave my social life a renaissance.
 
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