"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Social Observance: Girls playing with hair

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I've always heard that a girl's hair is sacred to them. Anytime I'm in bed with a girl I always play with their hair. The last girl I was with loved it so much she would constantly tell me to play with her hair, which was fine with me because it always lead to something more. I guess you can equate a girl's hair to her ego. Stroke the girls hair and you're stroking her ego as well.

Anyway I want some good opinion on this. I often notice when I'm passing girls on my campus that they seem to put their head down and stroke their hair when we walk pass each other. Also today I sat next to two attractive girls in a crowded lecture hall and both of them wouldn't stop playing with their hair. I looked around at other girls in the hall to see if it was a common occurrence, but I couldn't find any other girls going at it like the two girls next to me. I noticed as the class went on and I didn't say anything to either of them (hey I was taking notes), the hair stroking died down.

So, does playing with hair=attraction? Or maybe it equals a girl feeling uncomfortable or awkward or self-conscious?

Whats the opinion here?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Byezbozhniy

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Whenever you talk about body language you need to look for clusters. You would be foolish to assume that hair touching = attraction every time. It can be an IOI, but look for other things too! Try mirroring her body language, and then try to get her to mirror yours. That's always a good tell.
 

Heman6

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touching he hairr alone may not be an ioi because that's something that girls do all time in general. now if you're walking somewhere and you see a girl and she notices you and within making initial eye contact she touches her hair or looks down and touches her hair or does something similiar i guess you could say that is an ioi because it's out of the ordinary. it's unusual for a chick to do something like that under normal circumstances and you can assume attraction, i think most would agree about this. that's how i gauge women if women like me or when it comes to this anyway.

i walk by girls every once in a while who touch their hair or throw it off their shoulder in passing. a lot of times i never know if they like me because they usually never smile when they do it so i assume they must not bu that's my fault for not following up and approaching most of the time. i'm always usually stone faced so maybe smiling at these chicks would encourage them to do so too, who knows. always wondered about this one, if i was blowing opportunities, holy ****, hundreds of em gone :\
 
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