Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So this women was checking me out at a live concert a few month back, a few of my friend notice and i did get some eye contact from her
However when i was gonna approac they told me to wait for a better occasion because this was one of the rare occasion i was drunk af. Did get a ONS that night but that women checking me out was more my taste look wise.


So she started following me on IG about a month ago and i followed back.

Today she posted a pic of herself that i liked, then tonight i received a friend request from her but did not accept right away, then an hours later she removed her friend request.

Im thinking that is actualy a good signs.

How do i proceed, just send her an invite myself? And get a date?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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In seduction, you are supposed to move forward when she moves forward. So far you have been moving backwards every time she moves forward. And now when she moves backwards by taking away her friend request, you suddenly want to move forward?

I think any move now will put you in the chasing frame. It might work but I doubt it. Keep us updated.
Yeah but a 1 hr friend request dafuk is that
 

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You should ask her that. Like what happened to the friend request? This way the vibe is still playful without showing too much interest while at the same time you get to ping her to see if she is still interested. You need to put the ball on her court to show you something before you invest.
Look like a good option.
Been swarm with friend request from single.ladies since becoming single but i dont consider myself very good with txting game.
Been well educated on ss however so im sure il do alright
 

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So you liked her picture without being friends on there?

Is this common? Sounds like a creepy move to me

I think I would go for the direct msg here
 

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Yeah but a 1 hr friend request dafuk is that
I can imagine a large number of reasons.
  • It was somehow a mistake.
  • She's very impatient, thought you weren't interested.
  • She's unsure.
  • She's playing games.
  • [Insert female logic]
I agree with @stormrider that artificially adding time is a bad move. Much of the forum seem to disagree on that based on a fear of coming off as too eager. You can be fast without seeming too eager, it matters more what and how you respond than when you respond. In this case responding is literally just pressing a button, so you don't even have to worry about what and how to respond.

In the case she thought you weren't interested here's how she could think so. It's 2019, people have smartphones which gives notifications for such things, it's almost unthinkable to some people that you don't look at it at least once within an hour. She may assume you've seen it within an hour and chosen not to accept. Funniest thing is she would be right in such an assumption.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So you liked her picture without being friends on there?

Is this common? Sounds like a creepy move to me

I think I would go for the direct msg here
Nah it on IG she followed me first so i followed her after.

Im not that much of a social retard and we have many friend in common, i live in a small town where everyone knows everyone
 

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I can imagine a large number of reasons.
  • It was somehow a mistake.
  • She's very impatient, thought you weren't interested.
  • She's unsure.
  • She's playing games.
  • [Insert female logic]
I agree with @stormrider that artificially adding time is a bad move. Much of the forum seem to disagree on that based on a fear of coming off as too eager. You can be fast without seeming too eager, it matters more what and how you respond than when you respond. In this case responding is literally just pressing a button, so you don't even have to worry about what and how to respond.

In the case she thought you weren't interested here's how she could think so. It's 2019, people have smartphones which gives notifications for such things, it's almost unthinkable to some people that you don't look at it at least once within an hour. She may assume you've seen it within an hour and chosen not to accept. Funniest thing is she would be right in such an assumption.
It was sent at like 11pm i could have been asleep.
I sent her a friend request a few hours ago so will.see how things turn out.
 

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Hey Jane, you seem the brave type to enjoy some good clean fun go-cart'ing.

I'll be going at so and so time at so and so place, join me.

However i'd completely understand if u r not the brave type, no hard feelings, just let me know soonest (this sentence is meant to challenge her, a challenge that many women can't resist, who wants to be known as a coward huh? ).
 

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Send the invite out.

Don't over think it and don't analyse too much.

You want something then fish for it.

Play the game.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Send the invite out.

Don't over think it and don't analyse too much.

You want something then fish for it.

Play the game.
Yep it was sent will keep you guys posted.
 

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Invite accepted , i just sent her a msg.
Will see how its gonna play out.
 

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Just had a few txt with her she seems high interest.

Date schedule for next week when i get homw from work.
 
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