Social Media game

[DonJefe19]

I'm a pretty busy guy. My day job and the work I do outside of it keeps me pretty busy. So it's hard to find time to dedicate just to do social stuff (finding dates) and when I do find time, it's normally activities that are more than just going to a trendy bar. In fact, I hate going to bars but I digress.

Tried doing dating apps, found that it's hard to nail profiles of women I want to date. Mostly ended up getting catfished or they're bat sh*t crazy. I've been told that if I put effort into my dating profiles with better photos that I could have more success. Although, I don't think it's worth the effort to beef something up like that.

However, I was also told that given my lifestyle that I'll have more success with dates if I just put up a social media profile and post good photos of myself. I hate social media, but if it means I'll get more and better dates I'm willing to make an exception. The forum search has some posts about using social media but most folks seem to think it's a waste of time. Is that still the case?

If it's viable, what would you all suggest I would put up as content? What social media platforms are the most popular? I'll be willing to do Instagram but I've heard it's pretty much suffering the safe fate as Facebook where the old folks have taken over.

Thanks guys!

 

[BPH]

Instagram is the best dating app in the world. I barely use it, and still get laid a lot.

So take that how you will.

I used to say Tinder > Bumble > Hinge. Now I'd say Hinge > Bumble > Tinder, purely because of how many fake accounts there are.

Depending on where you live, it would be much easier to "force" yourself to enjoy bars enough to meet women there, as opposed to building a popular Instagram profile from scratch.

One will take several years, a blue checkmark, ideally some celebrity status, and lots of posts highlighting your exciting and lavish life.

The other will require you to go somewhere you're not thrilled about for a little bit.

Your choice.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Hey bro. Welcome to SoSuave

Dont put all your eggs in one basket. Try mixing social media game with cold approaches

 

[DonJefe19]

Hey bro. Welcome to SoSuave

Dont put all your eggs in one basket. Try mixing social media game with cold approaches

I'm not a big fan of cold approaches for several reasons: 1.) it's time consuming 2.) I feel like a life insurance salesman without a marketing team and 3.) It's not very fun when the ultimate goal is getting laid and it's hard to not make it about that

Don't get wrong, I used to do cold approaches constantly when I was younger. On the other hand, I'm older now (38) and it feels strange to approach younger chicks in certain places (Mall, college campuses, etc.)

This is why warm approaches are more preferred.

 

[DonJefe19]

Instagram is the best dating app in the world. I barely use it, and still get laid a lot.

So take that how you will.

I used to say Tinder > Bumble > Hinge. Now I'd say Hinge > Bumble > Tinder, purely because of how many fake accounts there are.

Depending on where you live, it would be much easier to "force" yourself to enjoy bars enough to meet women there, as opposed to building a popular Instagram profile from scratch.

One will take several years, a blue checkmark, ideally some celebrity status, and lots of posts highlighting your exciting and lavish life.

The other will require you to go somewhere you're not thrilled about for a little bit.

Your choice.

My geographic location isn't ideal. I live in a relatively smaller city in Ohio (less than 50,000) and I'm about an hour away city (more than 900,000). Small town bars where I live aren't the most exciting places to be. I'll go to watch ball games or dance for the sake convenience however, the talent isn't great. If there was an event going on in the city, I'll be more incline to travel.

It's one of the reasons why I wanted leverage social media so I can have more opportunities without having to deal with logistics on a daily basis.

 

[BPH]

My geographic location isn't ideal.

Brother...I don't know if you see my location there, but you are preaching to the choir

 

[DonJefe19]

Brother...I don't know if you see my location there, but you are preaching to the choir

Wilmington? That's like 30 minutes from Philly isn't it?

 

[BPH]

Wilmington? That's like 30 minutes from Philly isn't it?

It's closer to 45-60 for the fun parts. Due to that, the only time I go is when my friend is hosting and allows me to stay overnight.

That is a $100 Uber one-way, and I'm not chancing drinking and driving that.

 

[DonJefe19]

It's closer to 45-60 for the fun parts. Due to that, the only time I go is when my friend is hosting and allows me to stay overnight.

That is a $100 Uber one-way, and I'm not chancing drinking and driving that.

Ah gee, good point. I keep forgetting that east coast is a lot busier than Ohio. Our city is a lot smaller compared to Philly or any other city on the east coast.

 

[SW15]

My geographic location isn't ideal. I live in a relatively smaller city in Ohio (less than 50,000) and I'm about an hour away city (more than 900,000).

Your geography is a major problem. It's even worse than @BPH 's Wilmington problem. Wilmington, DE has slightly over 500,000 in its immediate area (New Castle County, DE). The biggest problem Wilmington has is that it sits in the shadow of Philadelphia primarily, and Baltimore and Washington DC to a lesser extent.

There isn't a good method available given your geography problem. I'm not sure how you've been surviving to this point.

What social media platforms are the most popular?

Instagram is still your best bet. In order to DM effectively on Instagram, this is what you will need....

• Good photos and videos showing off a good lifestyle
• A good physique and a good sense of style
• More Followers than accounts you are Following. The Follower to Following ratio is key on Instagram. On a small scale, having 50 Followers while only Following 30 accounts is a good ratio but still not much of anything
• A good quantity of Followers while keeping the ratio from the point above

 

[DonJefe19]

Your geography is a major problem. It's even worse than @BPH 's Wilmington problem. Wilmington, DE has slightly over 500,000 in its immediate area (New Castle County, DE). The biggest problem Wilmington has is that it sits in the shadow of Philadelphia primarily, and Baltimore and Washington DC to a lesser extent.

There isn't a good method available given your geography problem. I'm not sure how you've been surviving to this point.

Me neither, it sucks. I've contemplated moving to a more desirable location.

Instagram is still your best bet. In order to DM effectively on Instagram, this is what you will need....

• Good photos and videos showing off a good lifestyle
• A good physique and a good sense of style
• More Followers than accounts you are Following. The Follower to Following ratio is key on Instagram. On a small scale, having 50 Followers while only Following 30 accounts is a good ratio but still not much of anything
• A good quantity of Followers while keeping the ratio from the point above

One of the goals for this year to start taking images of my life. I've taken trips that I think would be good for the 'gram. The problem is I'm about taking pictures and I still get the ick navigating around social media.

 

[Murk]

As a private person, (and a successful business owner) who came off FB after uni in 2009 and never picked up insta, I'd stay away. There is better use of my time however I do think what could have been. I'm happy and free, I actually feel sorry for the younger generation.

 

[Free_Agent]

As a private person, (and a successful business owner) who came off FB after uni in 2009 and never picked up insta, I'd stay away. There is better use of my time however I do think what could have been. I'm happy and free, I actually feel sorry for the younger generation.

Same. It’s all so tiresome

I live a damn good life and find no reason, need or desire to “show” it off. Nor do I want to waste the time posting about it.