This thread is more two-fold, but both involve my new job and how to handle two different situations that fit in with the DJ mindset.
1 - I know what jealousy is, why it exists, how it usually develops, etc. Recently, I began working at a major company/corporation and...it seems I am facing the wrath of a different type of envy or jealousy from peers I know from back home. Yes - this "envy" doesn't appear to be because of the job I got or what I am doing there. It's more, "Why Mr. Goods? He's not special. Mr. Goods, specifically, does not deserve this." By the looks of it, some random guy back home getting the same job would go by without a murmur. Sure, I don't really care what acquaintances think, but even my friends are on the hate train:
-One friend thinks my job is very straightforward and I should get some girls to hang out with me while I am "at work" (or pregame before I go in). His big quote was that I didn't really do anything unique to get the job. I decided against telling other people nearby that this same friend has failed out of college twice and has been fired from low-level jobs three times because he did dumb things...to show he has no credibility here.
-Another one of my friends says, "[My] job isn't that tough" and that he could have sent in his resume too, I just got lucky they pulled mine out. And to make sure it's not just general envy, he went on to suggest that I "don't do anything special, my degree - eh." He's aspiring to be a nurse or a doctor, but keeps going one step forward, two steps back. He has no internship/job experience going towards his career, obviously.
-One of my past co-workers contacted me on LinkedIn basically asking, "How did "I" get this job? He suggested that "perhaps" I knew someone that got me in the door.
For the record, I've worked towards this job since I was little, and it's a difficult job to do.
I know that I shouldn't care what anyone else thinks, but when it's people I know very well...it's different. Obviously jealousy exists, but it's coming off more that it's because "I" got the job. If it were anyone else, no one would care.
2 - This is the part you will enjoy discussing more. Through first-hand experience and things I have also read here, girls at work = no. Especially when it's a job going towards my career. One aspect of this not addressed however; What happens if your new job encompasses your life to the point that everyone you know is from work? Longer hours, not the traditional workday times, a lot of people are around my age, and the place has a lot of facilities (such as a gym) pretty much makes my workplace my life. I've noticed that some of the slightly older people working here do develop friendships since they are all around so much. So, for this forum, how do I go about the whole girl thing? It's at work, yes...but what happens when work becomes your social life?
1 - I know what jealousy is, why it exists, how it usually develops, etc. Recently, I began working at a major company/corporation and...it seems I am facing the wrath of a different type of envy or jealousy from peers I know from back home. Yes - this "envy" doesn't appear to be because of the job I got or what I am doing there. It's more, "Why Mr. Goods? He's not special. Mr. Goods, specifically, does not deserve this." By the looks of it, some random guy back home getting the same job would go by without a murmur. Sure, I don't really care what acquaintances think, but even my friends are on the hate train:
-One friend thinks my job is very straightforward and I should get some girls to hang out with me while I am "at work" (or pregame before I go in). His big quote was that I didn't really do anything unique to get the job. I decided against telling other people nearby that this same friend has failed out of college twice and has been fired from low-level jobs three times because he did dumb things...to show he has no credibility here.
-Another one of my friends says, "[My] job isn't that tough" and that he could have sent in his resume too, I just got lucky they pulled mine out. And to make sure it's not just general envy, he went on to suggest that I "don't do anything special, my degree - eh." He's aspiring to be a nurse or a doctor, but keeps going one step forward, two steps back. He has no internship/job experience going towards his career, obviously.
-One of my past co-workers contacted me on LinkedIn basically asking, "How did "I" get this job? He suggested that "perhaps" I knew someone that got me in the door.
For the record, I've worked towards this job since I was little, and it's a difficult job to do.
I know that I shouldn't care what anyone else thinks, but when it's people I know very well...it's different. Obviously jealousy exists, but it's coming off more that it's because "I" got the job. If it were anyone else, no one would care.2 - This is the part you will enjoy discussing more. Through first-hand experience and things I have also read here, girls at work = no. Especially when it's a job going towards my career. One aspect of this not addressed however; What happens if your new job encompasses your life to the point that everyone you know is from work? Longer hours, not the traditional workday times, a lot of people are around my age, and the place has a lot of facilities (such as a gym) pretty much makes my workplace my life. I've noticed that some of the slightly older people working here do develop friendships since they are all around so much. So, for this forum, how do I go about the whole girl thing? It's at work, yes...but what happens when work becomes your social life?