I have friends and am not a loser or anything at school, but I am content with not hanging out on the weekends. I rarely go out and hang out with people or go to parties. In high school, do you need a social life outside of school in order to get girls? Anyone else in this position?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
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To answer your question, probably not. You could probably find a girl like yourself who doesnt go out much, but if I were you, i'd try and make friends and go out at least once every other weekend. You'll gain so much more confidence, meet more people, and have more fun.
if your willing to talk there are ppl who will listen. Go to the gym and start up a convo, about something randon and then build off that the next time you see that person, don't forget to talk to them. By no time if u click you will be hanging out.
Mjazz said:
Well, I'm going to give my honest opinion here...yes, you need a social life outside of school to get girls. Think about it, sure you can do some flirting in school and such, but obviously nothing is going to happen there.
A big part of attraction for high school girls is social proof, and by hanging out with a lot of people on the weekends, that is how you show your social proof. It's like one big cycle, you hang out with people on the weekends and show off your social proof. Then more people want to hang out with you because your showing them your a well liked guy, so your stock just keeps rising and rising.
Do yourself a favor and go out every once in a while just to show your face around, it will do wonders for your game.
(By the way, this was all found out from experience, because, like you, i wasn't the most social guy for my first two years of high school. I was content to hang out by myself or with a few close friends on the weekends. But since my junior year i have been pushing my social life more and the results have really shown with the amount of girls i meet/hang out with/hook up with.)
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah I totally aGREE WITH THIS. i USED TO NEVER (stupid caps lock sorry) go out or anything but a friend started getting into pua stuff, and just hanging out with him, and some of the chicks he knows now, my confidence is way the hell up. I met a chick thru him and she was not only giving me IOI's all night, she was leaning on me and being playful, it was a hell of a lot of fun. Now that raised my confidence a ****load.gymshorts said:
So just go out and meet people, it'll raise your confidence so much, and you'll be a happier person, and your love life will benefit from it
Fine, I will hang out then. Another thing is a lot of my friends drink and smoke, like everytime we hang out. Sometimes I dont feel like smoking or drinking and they turn all peer pressureish, its not that I cant deal with it, its just annoying as hell. But i guess I will go out and have some fun, thanks guys!
Yes, you do.
Well.. not really.. but it certainly does help A LOT.
I know this from experience.
Besides.. you aren't limited to just school girls. I've hooked up with other chicks from other schools, and it all started from a "Hey, haven't I seen you somewhere?".
Well.. not really.. but it certainly does help A LOT.
I know this from experience.
Besides.. you aren't limited to just school girls. I've hooked up with other chicks from other schools, and it all started from a "Hey, haven't I seen you somewhere?".
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if you dont feel like smoking / drinking dont do it. Better still IMHO ,change your friends circle to guys who either don't do it or don't force others to do it. If your friends are annoying you , you are surely not having a good time.Mjazz said:
It certainly isn't a good think to smoke or drink(I'm not venturing into morality out here) and one of the first rule of Mystery is not to have any drinks , it adversly affects your performance with girls.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.