Social event with the ex?

[Serg897]

Hey all,

Just fishing for general opinions - would you go to a house party or social event that you know will have your ex there?

I broke up with this girl several weeks ago and there has been some drama. I still have some feelings for her, but I've generally tried to close the door in my mind on trying to get back together.

A mutual friend of ours is having a thing at her place, and she invited both of us.

So, would you guys do this?

 

[thedude4242]

I didnt read the post right, I though it said social even with sex and got my attention. lol.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I still have some feelings for her


That is the problem. How well can you hide those feelings? If she grabs the first guy she sees and starts sucking face with him, will that bother you? What if she brings a date and they are all over each other all night? If you can handle all of that without being upset, even after a few drinks, then you should go and have fun. Otherwise, don't go. You're not ready, and you will only give her the satisfaction of being able to still upset you.

 

[Joe Stud]

you broke up with her.... yet you still have feelings? then why did you break up? either way, you must balance the 2 concepts: a) to attend, and show you are getting along fine and b) decline, and come off as an injured wuss who is suffering withdrawal symptoms. I would go, and be cool, confident, and a bit aloof. smell good. dress good. smile confidently

 

[Serg897]

I didnt break up with her. She broke up with me after a fight, accusing me of not being supportive enough, etc.

There has been some drama back and forth after this - enough to make me realize that this situation is not salvageable, and that I need to let her go.

I have chosen to go. There aren't any other good options for tonight, and I don't want to sit around at home.

The fact that I have a date tomorrow with a new girl should cheer me up.

 

[Brighty]

Eh, from that post it seems like you shouldn't go. But its your call, as long as you ignore her you should be fine. Don't even go after hooking up with other girls to make her jealous - that will just give her more power in your subconscious. Just pretend she isn't there and go have fun.