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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Social event with the ex?

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Hey all,

Just fishing for general opinions - would you go to a house party or social event that you know will have your ex there?

I broke up with this girl several weeks ago and there has been some drama. I still have some feelings for her, but I've generally tried to close the door in my mind on trying to get back together.

A mutual friend of ours is having a thing at her place, and she invited both of us.

So, would you guys do this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I didnt read the post right, I though it said social even with sex and got my attention. lol.
 
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I still have some feelings for her


That is the problem. How well can you hide those feelings? If she grabs the first guy she sees and starts sucking face with him, will that bother you? What if she brings a date and they are all over each other all night? If you can handle all of that without being upset, even after a few drinks, then you should go and have fun. Otherwise, don't go. You're not ready, and you will only give her the satisfaction of being able to still upset you.
 
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you broke up with her.... yet you still have feelings? then why did you break up? either way, you must balance the 2 concepts: a) to attend, and show you are getting along fine and b) decline, and come off as an injured wuss who is suffering withdrawal symptoms. I would go, and be cool, confident, and a bit aloof. smell good. dress good. smile confidently
 
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I didnt break up with her. She broke up with me after a fight, accusing me of not being supportive enough, etc.

There has been some drama back and forth after this - enough to make me realize that this situation is not salvageable, and that I need to let her go.

I have chosen to go. There aren't any other good options for tonight, and I don't want to sit around at home.

The fact that I have a date tomorrow with a new girl should cheer me up. :cool:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Eh, from that post it seems like you shouldn't go. But its your call, as long as you ignore her you should be fine. Don't even go after hooking up with other girls to make her jealous - that will just give her more power in your subconscious. Just pretend she isn't there and go have fun.
 
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