"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Social conditioning and the rest

stevo

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We talk alot about social conditioning, what we're told growing up and what we are continuously fed by the media.

We talk about not putting women on pedestals but making ourselves equal or higher in prority.

When we do attack these topics it's mid way into the relationship (boy has already met girl).

I want us to consider specific ways we subconsciously exhibit these traits (prerelationship)?

Digging deep, I start to realize there's a common hatred between men and a common "soft spot" for women.

It could be as a result of caveman mentality, every macho being a threat but today is that mentality affecting us?

Women are changing. Sheet. Women have changed. Have we? really?


Has this happened to you?

You see the picture of the dude who bangs a hot celebrity and all of a sudden you feel hatred/jealousy/envy/whatever against the dude.

You make indirect moves on your friend's girl? teasing the waters?

Have you noticed:

A man would quickly fight another man even if the girl actually said something seriously offensive.

Men physically fight boyfriends because of a girl, I'd never understand that reasoning. She's not even your girl!

Your girl invites her ex to where you'd be and your first thought would be how to outplay the ex rather than getting to know the ex or just being cool/relaxed rather than tensed and waiting for a reason to go off.

Men think of ways to outplay the boyfriend to get the girl

Men would find ways to humiliate or embarrass the boyfriend just to show off to the girl.

Why do we care so much?

Competing and fighting for her attention, body and love only puts her higher on the pedestal.

I'm starting to learn to be happy for the dude with the chic as I hope he's the man in the relationship. If the girl shows up naked at my front door, now that's a totally different situation.

This ideology means you continue to live your life being awesome, if the girl realizes you're the man she wants inside her, let her come to you so you can make her kum for you. Gone are the days where you actively try to take another man's woman. Some betas would put a gun to your head for that especially if it's his wife.

When it comes to being a DJ "survival of the fittest" applies to everything else but women. It does not mean which man could outshine the other for the girl. It means which girl could outshine the other for YOUR time and attention without coming off needy.

There are deeper ways we continue to make her know she's the prize, it'd take a lot of realization to uproot social conditioning but here's a start.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Great post.

The truth is society needs beta males to be disposable white knights. This ensures the safety and security of women and children.

Alphas focus on power in all forms (education, money, health, position) while betas focus on women. The beta male's entire self-image is based on how women view him and his ability to seduce them. The beta male is competitive over women because his fail ego needs female validation to get out of bed in the morning.

With the alpha.. women come to him half the time. There is no competition. And his overall indifference to women is half of the appeal. His indifference to women is also the reason they can never control him and why he is unlikely to commit to one woman (like most betas thirst to do)

Most men in society are disposable beta males who will sacrifice their money, resources and time in sexual competition with other beta losers. Its fun to watch.
 

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A lot of very good points. I doubt we will ever see all men come to this realization. It will take some doing. We live in a female/feminist inspired world now. Female influence is everywhere. Nowhere is it stronger than in current mass media.

Take a look in commercials, TV shows etc. There are very little good, strong male role models. Most men these days only have people like Ross from Friends or Raymond in Everybody Loves Raymond or any of your typical "father is stupid while mom is wise" tropes. Those are the types of men, many young boys are slowly being conditioned into being.
 

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Poon King said:
Great post.

The truth is society needs beta males to be disposable white knights. This ensures the safety and security of women and children.

Alphas focus on power in all forms (education, money, health, position) while betas focus on women. The beta male's entire self-image is based on how women view him and his ability to seduce them. The beta male is competitive over women because his fail ego needs female validation to get out of bed in the morning.

With the alpha.. women come to him half the time. There is no competition. And his overall indifference to women is half of the appeal. His indifference to women is also the reason they can never control him and why he is unlikely to commit to one woman (like most betas thirst to do)

Most men in society are disposable beta males who will sacrifice their money, resources and time in sexual competition with other beta losers. Its fun to watch.
Well said. :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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