This isn't your usual DJ Tip but if you practice it long enough I guarantee you will find yourself with more opportunities.
Last night I went to a music festival thing at a club. There were multiple live bands playing. Each band was quite different and attracted its own unique fan base. It was an interesting scenario. I looked around the room and saw a diverse group of people there. Preps, Hippies, Punkers, Cowboys, Goths, etc. It seemed like every stereotype was there to see "their" band. I'd classify myself as a little bit preppy.
As usually happens in such cases everyone splits off into their "groups". Well it was a great night for me socially. I brought a date with me but found that I was so caught up being social that I wasn't able to spend a lot of time with her. At the end of the night driving home she gave me an unusual compliment.
Something like this,
Her: "You are amazing! ( I could have said something C+F but chose to remain silent) I watched you all night and I can't believe how many friends you have. One minute I look over and you're laughing and hugging some crazy looking guy with mohawk and 10 minutes later I see you Hi-5ving some guy in a cowboy hat. Then a little while later you're surrounded by a bunch of dread-locked hippies. Everyone that passed by you seemed so excited to see and talk to you. You were hugging everyone and they all seemed like they were your best friends."
Me: "I guess I'm just a friendly guy."
Her: "Its more than that. Everyone is friendly enough. What's different about you is that you treat EVERYONE exactly the same.
All those people were split into their little social circles and there you were fitting in with all of them. I must say I was a little jealous when I saw you talking and hugging all those different girls."
Me: "Really??? Why they were just friends."
Her: "I know but I could tell they ALL wanted you."
Me: "Yeah, right."
Her: "I'm serious! I know women and they really pick up on guys with personalities like yours. If you weren't there with me tonight you could have taken any one of those women home with you."
Me: (Too many C+F opportunities. I couldn't hold off) "How do you know I don't have a few of them in the trunk?
Anyways, it kind of suprised me in a way. I was just being myself and I don't really walk around thinking everybody likes me or every chick wants me. I honestly just try and befriend everyone.
Today I was remembering what my date had said to me and started thinking about what it is that I'm doing in social situations.
1. Always smiling.
2. Express genuine excitement to see people I already know again.
3. Show genuine interest in other peoples lives.
4. Remember names and details about people.
5. Make people feel good about themselves. Compliments - "Hey great to see you! You're looking good tonight."
6. Don't talk negatively about others behind their backs.
7. Talk to strangers and make sure I tell them it was great meeting them. Shake a guy's hand and give the ladies hugs - if appropriate.
8. When I run into someone I haven't seen for awhile I jump right into a conversation as though I just talked to them yesterday. Many times people don't care to go into the formalities of "So how you been? What have you been up to?" I ask that stuff later.
9. Make introductions. People realize that I have many friends and I'm well liked. I introduce them to my other friends. It makes them feel good and part of the crowd.
10. Treat Everyone exactly the same. Treat them all as equals. That ugly chick or that nerdy looking guy standing by himself. The scary ass looking Goth guy or the red-neck hick. They are all JUST people.
Now the conversations you are going to have with all these types of people will all be very different. I am most definately NOT telling you to be something you are not just to make friends with these different people. ALWAYS be yourself. If that redneck hick says something that totally offends you - let it go. You won't agree with everyone and they won't always agree with you. Do not judge other people. They are just being themselves. Accept them for what they are. The differences are what makes the world go around.
So many people limit themselves in regards to who they interact with based on social stereotypes or looks. When you open yourself up to all kinds of people you won't believe how many people will be attracted to you. And we all know that attraction works with a snowball effect.
Its weird because none of this stuff is directly related to getting women. However, if you follow this advice I'm sure you'll find yourself more successful.
Slick.
Last night I went to a music festival thing at a club. There were multiple live bands playing. Each band was quite different and attracted its own unique fan base. It was an interesting scenario. I looked around the room and saw a diverse group of people there. Preps, Hippies, Punkers, Cowboys, Goths, etc. It seemed like every stereotype was there to see "their" band. I'd classify myself as a little bit preppy.
As usually happens in such cases everyone splits off into their "groups". Well it was a great night for me socially. I brought a date with me but found that I was so caught up being social that I wasn't able to spend a lot of time with her. At the end of the night driving home she gave me an unusual compliment.
Something like this,
Her: "You are amazing! ( I could have said something C+F but chose to remain silent) I watched you all night and I can't believe how many friends you have. One minute I look over and you're laughing and hugging some crazy looking guy with mohawk and 10 minutes later I see you Hi-5ving some guy in a cowboy hat. Then a little while later you're surrounded by a bunch of dread-locked hippies. Everyone that passed by you seemed so excited to see and talk to you. You were hugging everyone and they all seemed like they were your best friends."
Me: "I guess I'm just a friendly guy."
Her: "Its more than that. Everyone is friendly enough. What's different about you is that you treat EVERYONE exactly the same.
All those people were split into their little social circles and there you were fitting in with all of them. I must say I was a little jealous when I saw you talking and hugging all those different girls."
Me: "Really??? Why they were just friends."
Her: "I know but I could tell they ALL wanted you."
Me: "Yeah, right."
Her: "I'm serious! I know women and they really pick up on guys with personalities like yours. If you weren't there with me tonight you could have taken any one of those women home with you."
Me: (Too many C+F opportunities. I couldn't hold off) "How do you know I don't have a few of them in the trunk?
Anyways, it kind of suprised me in a way. I was just being myself and I don't really walk around thinking everybody likes me or every chick wants me. I honestly just try and befriend everyone.
Today I was remembering what my date had said to me and started thinking about what it is that I'm doing in social situations.
1. Always smiling.
2. Express genuine excitement to see people I already know again.
3. Show genuine interest in other peoples lives.
4. Remember names and details about people.
5. Make people feel good about themselves. Compliments - "Hey great to see you! You're looking good tonight."
6. Don't talk negatively about others behind their backs.
7. Talk to strangers and make sure I tell them it was great meeting them. Shake a guy's hand and give the ladies hugs - if appropriate.
8. When I run into someone I haven't seen for awhile I jump right into a conversation as though I just talked to them yesterday. Many times people don't care to go into the formalities of "So how you been? What have you been up to?" I ask that stuff later.
9. Make introductions. People realize that I have many friends and I'm well liked. I introduce them to my other friends. It makes them feel good and part of the crowd.
10. Treat Everyone exactly the same. Treat them all as equals. That ugly chick or that nerdy looking guy standing by himself. The scary ass looking Goth guy or the red-neck hick. They are all JUST people.
Now the conversations you are going to have with all these types of people will all be very different. I am most definately NOT telling you to be something you are not just to make friends with these different people. ALWAYS be yourself. If that redneck hick says something that totally offends you - let it go. You won't agree with everyone and they won't always agree with you. Do not judge other people. They are just being themselves. Accept them for what they are. The differences are what makes the world go around.
So many people limit themselves in regards to who they interact with based on social stereotypes or looks. When you open yourself up to all kinds of people you won't believe how many people will be attracted to you. And we all know that attraction works with a snowball effect.
Its weird because none of this stuff is directly related to getting women. However, if you follow this advice I'm sure you'll find yourself more successful.
Slick.