So....

[ItsOnNow]

I don't have alot because I don't try. This has killed me for a long time. It may be some sort of maturity thing,some juvenile fears. I often feel like I am not in control. Or I can't shift things. I can't approach,whether out of fear of judgement,rejection,or coming off the wrong way. The irony is,I approach women every day at my job,retail job,and it generally always goes well.

I realize they want a leader. But how much of that is dominance,alpha,power type of thing? Physical attraction?

I think this feeling of lack of success is what has attributed to this feeling of being behind. I don't supplicate. I can say no,I say when I like or don't like something,I make sure not to let people walk all over me. I can say how I feel about something,whether I like it or not,or If I am mad or not.

Maybe it is cause I have no balls....

 

[Mavrick]

Fear = unattractive
Fearlessness = attractive

Women go by behavior, and if your body language and communication are congruent with a fear based mentality, YOU WILL ALWAYS LOSE.

Look at the positive side of approaching women:
1. You might get one (that's more positive than anything you've thought as of yet).
2. You might learn what I'm telling you is true, and you're whole life may change.
3. You may meet women that have MANY women friends.

Look at the positive side of rejection:
1. Look at rejection as an opportunity to approach more women.
2. Look at rejection as if she just has bad taste.

You really have to focus on the positive aspects and not the negatives.

 

[ItsOnNow]

I realize that,but I just can't see the positives. I don't know if it's some sort of clouded judgement,emotional baggage,or lazyness. I haven't been out there enough to know my way around. I have an idea,but don't totally know.

Also,I have a tendency to be sort of spaced out.

I have never thought about getting one,just not having one.

 

[Mavrick]

Laziness and rebellious. You chose not to change, and there is NOTHING else I can do. You only chose to pity yourself. Women will give you the time of day if you just take the initiative to approach.

I will not appease you, and I've pretty much said all I can to help you.

Good luck, Bro!

 

[ItsOnNow]

I know,I have always realized this,yet taken no action. I think that bothers me the most.

But what do I do,just go up,say hi,and see where it goes?

 

[Mavrick]

Start here:

DJ Boot Camp

 

[ItsOnNow]

Hoo,that's alot of reading,i'll read when I can.