Purefilth
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Time to have a bump. I think.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So your girlfriend wants to "take a break"?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This crap just happened to me with new girl seeing....something is going on with me late ly...I got pushy acting with and a bit clingy....I knew it was coming but I'm giving one last chance to meet me tonight... if she decline s then yeah, I'll tell her to have a nice life
Nothing more important than preserving your self respect and dignity.... I had forgotten how easy it is to be manipulated by those gooey love y dovey type feelings ...I was completely indifferent before I met thus chick....and there's definitely a direct correlation with how hot the chick is to those delusional feelings.....when u think about it just add 20 pounds fat in her abd those feelings would vanish quickly.... there fore it's stupid to be dictated by those phony feelings...all women are the same regardless of looks....that's how u have to see it....I'm telling this chick tonight to go meet other guys and have a nice life if she pulls the 2 week break thing again
IBreatheSpears
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Great posts, reminds me of two quotes. The first I don't know the origin of: Women are like monkeys: they firmly grasp the next branch before letting go of the current one. The second is from Athol Kay: "When the lines of communication are cut, you aren't going to receive a message saying that the lines are cut. That's what the lines of communication being cut means".
TheMonkeyKing
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'Take a break'....?
Pfft. TMK says, 'Yeah sweetheart. You take your break.' Then I go down the pub with the lads the next Friday night to chat up other chicks.
Pfft. TMK says, 'Yeah sweetheart. You take your break.' Then I go down the pub with the lads the next Friday night to chat up other chicks.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
christoff522
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haha I told a girl I knew that i needed a break from her for a few days.
Then she acted like a d!ck so i told her it was gonna be a month now.
Then she acted like a d!ck so i told her it was gonna be a month now.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
bumpity bump for 2015!!! 
This. I think too many guys on here jump ship with the whole " shes distant she must be cheating on me" thing. ITs ****ing rediculous.....All hot women have orbiters but it doesn't necessarily mean there was another guy...if you fellas catch my drift.TillTheEndOfTime said:
If the chick breaks up with you and doesn't beg you or try damn hard to get you to take her back down the road when she's single , there is a chance there wasn't anyone else she just lost attraction to you. You guys who all want your exes to come running back to you be careful for what you wish for.
soulforge
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I had this same situation with my recent ex of 4 months.. this girl kept making dramas out of minor issues that can be resolved with some communication.Who Dares Win said:Very solid advice purefilth
Also lets not forget the "argue tactic" where she takes a minor problem and use it to create a conflict which justify the following breaking up.
She decides to break but wants to leave the blame on you so just wait for a minor fact and use it as a bridge.
You forget to tell her that you had a drink with the guys and boom, she screams that you dont respect her and you dont communicate therefore its necesarry the "break" that Op talked about.
Even more funny is when she pisses you off on purpose and when you react she screams back that you mistreat her and you dont love her anymore and she has no other choice than leave.
Its all the same sh1t just with different option.
Where as she did not ask for a break, she pulled away and stopped talking, and escalating the problem
Week later i decided to next her and walk away!! Not hanging around to be humiliated, or to be treated like sh@t...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BrainDamage92
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I think that you can easily sense when she starts losing love for you so you can blow her off first no questions asked.
If you feel this way just break up, no your gut is not wrong, no you cant rationalise the behaviours, no it will not get better.
Just walk away and be the "bad guy who left his GF", this position is more convenient for both of you. Breaking up is male bussiness and when you leave it to the women they will pull the stupidest **** possible.
If you feel this way just break up, no your gut is not wrong, no you cant rationalise the behaviours, no it will not get better.
Just walk away and be the "bad guy who left his GF", this position is more convenient for both of you. Breaking up is male bussiness and when you leave it to the women they will pull the stupidest **** possible.