"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So your girlfriend doesn't like you as much as you do

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How do you change that?

Also how do you change this even when your trying to seduce someone. E.g the girl doesn't really call you, only responds to your texts. She picks the phone up. But it's not really reciprocated.

Anyway to do this from a distant? Even if your not there. My dilema atm is that a girl i like- who lives some distance from me is doing this. We're not dating yet.

Also how do you do this, when your relationship is already dominated by the girl?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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2crudedudes

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Read the DJ bible. And you're wasting time in trying to establish a long distance relationship with someone you're not even dating.
 

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Aazman said:
Hthe girl doesn't really call you, only responds to your texts. She picks the phone up. But it's not really reciprocated.
Dump her and *date other women*. 80% of dating is efficiently spotting and filtering out the chicks who require too much effort and give too little reward.

Let me ask you this, and this is something you should ask yourself often: If you had a half-dozen beautiful women vying for your attention, would you bother with a chick who behaves like this one does?
 

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Zarky said:
Let me ask you this, and this is something you should ask yourself often: If you had a half-dozen beautiful women vying for your attention, would you bother with a chick who behaves like this one does?
Let me ask you, then: Do you think he has half a dozen women vying for his attention?

I dont have half a dozen girls on the go.

But you make a perfect point. The correct way to act (with girls), is to emulate what you would do if you did have half a dozen women vying for your attention. That is what game is.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zarky said:
Dump her and *date other women*.
Well that's the thing man...he can't "dump" her. According to him,the two of them aren't even dating yet.


2crudedudes had it right,this whole thing is a mess. This guy's trying to....

establish a long distance relationship

with a girl who has low to no interest

and with whom he's never even had a single date with yet.



Any one of those three on their own would be bad for trying to form a relationship,but all three together? Come on now.
 
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right this seems to be getting a bit confusing for people.

THE whole idea is that although right now we are long distance apart, in 3 months time, we won't be apart. We go to the same uni and live at the same residence. So my plan is to maintain a tiny bit of contact in the hols but nothing significant.

However, the only IOI i have been able to get from her is that she intitates conversations with me. That's it.

Bit lost on how to increase repo.

And my other question was:

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ONE DOMINATED BY THE GIRL, HOW DO YOU CHANGE THIS DURING THE RELATIONSHIP?

I know I'm not in a relationship but most of my friends are being whipped by their chicks which I totally disagree with.
 

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You can only pique her interest so much if you're away from her during the holidays. Keeping minimal contact is alright but you won't be able to advance or really seduce her until once you are together. But people are going to bash you for trying to get a relationship with a person you live with.. Tread carefully
 

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Aazman said:
IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ONE DOMINATED BY THE GIRL, HOW DO YOU CHANGE THIS DURING THE RELATIONSHIP?

I know I'm not in a relationship but most of my friends are being whipped by their chicks which I totally disagree with.
You dont change it, you set it at the start.

You dont have to say anything, if you act the part then it will fall into place. If you non-verbally set the tone of the relationship, she will take up her role as the girl. But you need to be a man.

How do you do that, its not hard. Make the decisions, make the plans, pass sh*t tests well(!), tell her what to do, make demands/ask for favours, be a man in general.

Its easier to set this up at the start, than to ever fix it.
 
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