So You Want Her in a RELATIONSHIP
You know guys, I enjoy reading our post, and I have appreciated the views and help I have received from many people here. Lately it seems many threads have been popping up about the girl one of you hit it off with, things were physically moving along, you really liked her, and you JUST HAD to tell her. Now you are on your way out (so much for challenge). Or there was some girl you wussed out on and was just friends with, and you fell for her, and now you want a relationship with her.
I feel for you guys. I have been there. I paid a high price for it too. Now, I want to help you.
First off, I don't want a girlfriend. I like dating and being with many women. But for those of you who would be happy with whatever girl you have in your life, this is how you do it.
Have any of you ever dated a girl that was really into you. Like so much so, that on the first date she is bringing up marriage and stuff? I have, and I will tell you, I run. I don't walk, I don't discuss it, I just run. I don't trust these girls to not do anything to "sink their claws" into me. So if you do the same thing, you will get the same results.
Forget the notion having to "declare" your undying love for this female. It's bs. We chase that which retreats, and conversely, we retreat for that which chases. If you are dating her, then keep dating her. Keep doing what you did to get her. Tease her, bust her, tell her she is blowing her chances. Don't tell her everything about you, make plans without asking what she wants to do. Basically be a DJ. If she is into you, just keep doing it. If you want a relationship then you MUST DO IT EVEN MORE. Turn everything up a notch. You don't have to ask her to be a GF. Just keep raising her attraction. At some point one of 3 things will happen. She meets someone with better skills, and you are out. OR she declares her love for you and starts asking you where you two are going, how serious are you about her, etc. OR you and her just slip into a relationship.
No matter how bad you think you have to have her, don't say it or act like it. The hotter she is, the truer this is. She wants to have to WIN you. She really does. Why do you think all of the things we talk about on this, and other forums, is about not being needy, being independent and not wanting or needing her approval? It's to show you are a man, and she has to prove herself to you.
Guys, I swear to you, stop asking, stop declaring your love, and stop acting like you have to have her and you will.
Now, if you would like to read what can happen if you don't listen, read this:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=38204&highlight=ffasa
Later
Brian
[email protected]
You know guys, I enjoy reading our post, and I have appreciated the views and help I have received from many people here. Lately it seems many threads have been popping up about the girl one of you hit it off with, things were physically moving along, you really liked her, and you JUST HAD to tell her. Now you are on your way out (so much for challenge). Or there was some girl you wussed out on and was just friends with, and you fell for her, and now you want a relationship with her.
I feel for you guys. I have been there. I paid a high price for it too. Now, I want to help you.
First off, I don't want a girlfriend. I like dating and being with many women. But for those of you who would be happy with whatever girl you have in your life, this is how you do it.
Have any of you ever dated a girl that was really into you. Like so much so, that on the first date she is bringing up marriage and stuff? I have, and I will tell you, I run. I don't walk, I don't discuss it, I just run. I don't trust these girls to not do anything to "sink their claws" into me. So if you do the same thing, you will get the same results.
Forget the notion having to "declare" your undying love for this female. It's bs. We chase that which retreats, and conversely, we retreat for that which chases. If you are dating her, then keep dating her. Keep doing what you did to get her. Tease her, bust her, tell her she is blowing her chances. Don't tell her everything about you, make plans without asking what she wants to do. Basically be a DJ. If she is into you, just keep doing it. If you want a relationship then you MUST DO IT EVEN MORE. Turn everything up a notch. You don't have to ask her to be a GF. Just keep raising her attraction. At some point one of 3 things will happen. She meets someone with better skills, and you are out. OR she declares her love for you and starts asking you where you two are going, how serious are you about her, etc. OR you and her just slip into a relationship.
No matter how bad you think you have to have her, don't say it or act like it. The hotter she is, the truer this is. She wants to have to WIN you. She really does. Why do you think all of the things we talk about on this, and other forums, is about not being needy, being independent and not wanting or needing her approval? It's to show you are a man, and she has to prove herself to you.
Guys, I swear to you, stop asking, stop declaring your love, and stop acting like you have to have her and you will.
Now, if you would like to read what can happen if you don't listen, read this:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=38204&highlight=ffasa
Later
Brian
[email protected]