"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So you got the contact info, how do you deal with "what next?"

FM 3321

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Maybe I shouldn't be making this thread since this topic has most likely been posted and reposted many many many times but I felt I should make it anyway. I don't think I'm the only one dealing with the "What next" syndrome. So here's my story.......


So in the past couple of weeks I've gotten 4 phone numbers or emails from girls in the club but to be very honest the delimma comes up to what I'm gonna do with them when I plan to meet them. I just don't have a plan because certian excuses pop up in my head for example:

-I still live with my parents
-They live too far
-My car is too messed up to drive that far (my axle needs work)
-they're not HB9's
-We don't live in the same town
-I might be too busy to see them so why bother.
-Fear that I'm doing the same thing other guys are doing but don't know it.
-I need to read more DJ Bible so I don't say the wrong thing.
-I'm scared that I'll mess up.
- Oh and one of the emails, I got the email but I forgot her name. :p


Yeah, STUPID excuses pop up like that when I think about contacting them and I have trouble mentally getting around those excuses in my head. So maybe you guys can help me with a link to some information about having a plan and the next step if its supposed to be structured that way.

So maybe another question is, what have you personally done when you've gotten an email or phone number. Invite them for coffee, shopping, movie, party? How did it go and how did you just go with the flow and NOT be so fixated on what will go right or wrong?

It's a shame that I'm worried about this but what can I say, I'm here to become better at dealing with women, not to look good on the forum. So your help wil be very appreciated.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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David D's ebook has so many good examples, I'm surprised you haven't started looking there!!! I know.. you have to pay for it, but its a good investment and I don't get paid to plug his stuff... I just think its a good start for you!!!... and it's a quicker reference than the DJ bible...
 

FM 3321

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Originally posted by MacDiddy
David D's ebook has so many good examples, I'm surprised you haven't started looking there!!! I know.. you have to pay for it, but its a good investment and I don't get paid to plug his stuff... I just think its a good start for you!!!... and it's a quicker reference than the DJ bible...

Duh (to myself)......yeah, I should have looked there. Thanks. I have the book, I should be using it as a reference, not a novel.
 

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When I get a girls number I will
1. Wait a few days
2. Phone her or sms her
3. Ask her on a date
 
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