jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hey friends!
So I've actually stumbled upon this story, which actuallyI've heard from a female friend.
Infact, all 10 female in her group, were actually reading the novel.
I've read it, and actually had AI help to summarize in cronologicall order for you the events.
This, and many other novels out there, but this in particular, actually makes so obvious one common narration that a woman like a man, but that man is too distant, and in the meanwhile, she come in proximity with another man, which actually become her crush by proximity.
If you want, you can read here the events of the story to have a better big picture about it.
The actual situation here is that many women tend to go for the guys they find "available" at that time, while keeping that "distant" man in their minds. This confirms once more the theory on https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/high-score-theory.229343/, and also reinforces the idea that women may be in relationships with men they do not fully respect, or with men they can have power over, control, and easily manipulate to reach their life goals.
Which may appear mutual, but in theory, most of the time, it is just her convincing him to accept her narrative as mutual.
(And trust me when I say I have seen so many "teddy bear" men in 10+ year LTRs out there, I’ve lost count)
This also opens up a debate about what mature men actually experience in this context. I mean, a mature man may still live in those women’s minds, especially because these kinds of men (many of whom are here on SoSuave) have no tolerance for disrespect or manipulation, which is often what women look for as a vulnerable point in a man. So these kinds of men, the strong and mature ones we aim to become, also need to accept the fact that they will be just a memory for many of these women.
(This is also due to how these women were raised, such that they do not expect a mature man to behave in that way, even though they are still attracted)
As men, we are called to walk away as soon as we experience disrespect or manipulative behavior from a woman.
As soon as we go no contact with them, we know that chapter is closed. Time for a new one.
As men, we will have many chapters to write, but it seems those chapters will be short in page count.
I used to imagine life as having only 2 or 3 chapters, maybe 200 pages each, but it now looks more like 15 chapters with the same page length.
As men, our lives often resemble being good at starting over from scratch.
It seems that the things we work hard to build and maintain may not last a lifetime. Instead, we must accept that we may enjoy them for a time, but also recognize the breaking point that signals when it is time to turn the page.
Or at some point we will be the teddy bear. Many men out there are in that role. They will have a longer story to write, of that same chapter.
As someone inexperienced, and I say that with some confidence after many chapters, I often wonder what it feels like to keep writing a story that doesn’t make you feel like a king, but instead should push you forward into writing the next chapter on the new page, and carrying all your losses.
So I've actually stumbled upon this story, which actuallyI've heard from a female friend.
Infact, all 10 female in her group, were actually reading the novel.
I've read it, and actually had AI help to summarize in cronologicall order for you the events.
This, and many other novels out there, but this in particular, actually makes so obvious one common narration that a woman like a man, but that man is too distant, and in the meanwhile, she come in proximity with another man, which actually become her crush by proximity.
If you want, you can read here the events of the story to have a better big picture about it.
chronological breakdown of the key events in The Deal:
Sequence of Main Events
Initial Situation
The Meeting and Proposal
The Agreement
Relationship Development
Turning Point
Conclusion
Sequence of Main Events
Initial Situation| Character | Situation |
|---|---|
| Hannah Wells | Brilliant vocal student but unpopular at college, has a crush on Justin (football player) who doesn't notice her |
| Garrett Graham | Captain of the hockey team, very popular but with grades too low to become a professional |
The Meeting and Proposal- Garrett pesters Hannah to give him tutoring
- Hannah initially refuses
- Garrett proposes a deal: in exchange for lessons, he'll make her popular so Justin will notice her
The Agreement- Hannah becomes Garrett's tutor until the end of the year
- Garrett pretends to date her to boost her popularity
Relationship Development- The two become friends during study sessions
- The fake dating starts becoming something real
Turning Point- A public kiss between Hannah and Garrett that "doesn't seem so fake after all"
- Feelings start becoming authentic
Conclusion- The fake relationship becomes real
- Hannah overcomes her insecurity and Garrett passes his exam
The actual situation here is that many women tend to go for the guys they find "available" at that time, while keeping that "distant" man in their minds. This confirms once more the theory on https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/high-score-theory.229343/, and also reinforces the idea that women may be in relationships with men they do not fully respect, or with men they can have power over, control, and easily manipulate to reach their life goals.
Which may appear mutual, but in theory, most of the time, it is just her convincing him to accept her narrative as mutual.
(And trust me when I say I have seen so many "teddy bear" men in 10+ year LTRs out there, I’ve lost count)
This also opens up a debate about what mature men actually experience in this context. I mean, a mature man may still live in those women’s minds, especially because these kinds of men (many of whom are here on SoSuave) have no tolerance for disrespect or manipulation, which is often what women look for as a vulnerable point in a man. So these kinds of men, the strong and mature ones we aim to become, also need to accept the fact that they will be just a memory for many of these women.
(This is also due to how these women were raised, such that they do not expect a mature man to behave in that way, even though they are still attracted)
As men, we are called to walk away as soon as we experience disrespect or manipulative behavior from a woman.
As soon as we go no contact with them, we know that chapter is closed. Time for a new one.
As men, we will have many chapters to write, but it seems those chapters will be short in page count.
I used to imagine life as having only 2 or 3 chapters, maybe 200 pages each, but it now looks more like 15 chapters with the same page length.
As men, our lives often resemble being good at starting over from scratch.
It seems that the things we work hard to build and maintain may not last a lifetime. Instead, we must accept that we may enjoy them for a time, but also recognize the breaking point that signals when it is time to turn the page.
Or at some point we will be the teddy bear. Many men out there are in that role. They will have a longer story to write, of that same chapter.
As someone inexperienced, and I say that with some confidence after many chapters, I often wonder what it feels like to keep writing a story that doesn’t make you feel like a king, but instead should push you forward into writing the next chapter on the new page, and carrying all your losses.
