So, who has the impossibly high standards again?

[Archaxis]

Well, here's some pretty scientific proof of something I've long suspected. We get told over-and-over-and-over again that men put way more emphasis on looks than women, and that women are held to "impossibly high social standards" for looks, but here's the bitter center of the proverbial pudding:

Your Looks And Online Dating, OK Cupid Trends Blog

OKC, a fairly large, free dating site (of which I've personally had no luck whatsoever meeting even one girl off) compiled the data on photo ratings of guys and girls, some ~300,000 ratings, and I'm not surprised at all at the result, but somehow still shocked. Take a look at the two graphs representing the ratings.

Males rated females on a almost symmetrical "camel hump" if you will... better extrapolated, probably pretty close to the bell-curve that occurs in nature, with the bulk of lades falling very strongly towards average.

Now look at the female graph. Like it says in the text, some 80% of guys fall as BELOW AVERAGE, and not just a southbound shift of the bell-curve, the distribution falls HEAVILY and sharply between 0 and 2!

Seriously?! Western (and mostly American, as that's the demographic that uses the site) women are so unbelievably out-of-touch. I mean, as I look around here in the U.S. men hold up a hell of a lot better than ladies do, and fewer of them balloon up like an grilled Oscar Meyer the first year of college... yet they think we're all dogs. Orly?

Thoughts? Also, take a look at some of the other statistics on there... there is some seriously interesting and shocking stuff (like how over 50% of white women would "strongly" prefer to date within their own race). I've been looking for some hard numbers like this for a long time.

 

[Archaxis]

BUMP! I can't believe no one here found this the least bit interesting. Really?

 

[SuSHI]

HEy, I found this recently on my own, and thought it was pretty shocking too. I didnt read the part about the race thing, but that is sorta not shocking. Actually, I am surprised there are 50% of white girls out there willing to date outside of their race. Not as good for the asian girls even. But yeah, I was just thinking about this the other day, and now I have found it again ha.
women are pretty out of touch with reality; do you use the site? There are some hotties on there though.

 

[SuSHI]

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/10/05/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/

 

[Archaxis]

HEy, I found this recently on my own, and thought it was pretty shocking too. I didnt read the part about the race thing, but that is sorta not shocking. Actually, I am surprised there are 50% of white girls out there willing to date outside of their race. Not as good for the asian girls even. But yeah, I was just thinking about this the other day, and now I have found it again ha.
women are pretty out of touch with reality; do you use the site? There are some hotties on there though.

I've tried it on and off, with no success whatsoever. I didn't find an overwhelming amount of good looking girls on there. There are a few, but overall it seems to be a haven for A LOT hipster-type girls... definitely not my type.

 

[Jitterbug]

I read this before on another site. Not surprising.

Looks is the #1 currency on Internet dating sites, due to the lack of physical presence.

Women get approached on Internet dating sites 10 times more than they do in real life. The more approaches they get from average guys, the lower the value of average guys appears to them. Hence they judge all except the best looking guys much more harshly than they would in real life.

They are not as harsh about looks outside of the Internet.

This phenomenon exists in men too on the Internet, just not on dating sites. If you want to check, just post up a picture of an attractive girl, say, a 7 in your eyes, and tell people that it's your GF and ask for ratings. I guarantee you most guys will judge her very harshly, since, hey, they have instant access to zillions of photos and videos of the most beautiful women on the planet. The photo of some average cutie isn't gonna excite them much.

Now get off dating sites, conquer your fears and go meet women in the real world.

 

[SuSHI]

I've tried it on and off, with no success whatsoever. I didn't find an overwhelming amount of good looking girls on there. There are a few, but overall it seems to be a haven for A LOT hipster-type girls... definitely not my type.

HAHA, those are exactly my type. And a lot of them are attractive man. But only full body shots can be taken seriously.

 

[SuSHI]

You know what the number one cure for being too involved with some girl you just met at a party? OR at being scared of rejection in real life while attempting to hit on some girls?
Dating sites.
Plain and simple, you do both the real life approaches and the dating sites together, and you instantly increase your chances of prospects. And if your prospects increase, you will be more relaxed and less desperate on all dealings in real life. So for the nay sayers of internet dating, maybe you just need at least one success before you can give it a chance.

What I found shocking, and I didn't know it was this bad is the RACE study they did on that site. When it comes to whites, less than 50% are willing to date outside of their race. Compared to a 70% of non-whites willing to date outside their race. This statistic was especially true when it came to white women.