It has been a long, strange journey. I wound up moving in with the girl I was dating, and she had nearly tricked me in to marriage before I came to my senses.
I've learned a lot though when it comes to maintaining control and interest over the long term.
- Becoming a viable person to hook up with is easy. Dealing with the consequences is not for the faint of heart.
- The game NEVER ends, six months, one year, fifty years, she is always going to be testing you and pushing the envelope to see just how much she can get away with and just how much you will put up with.
- Over the long term, arguments are inevitible. If nothing else, a woman will start an argument just to see how you will handle it. I've found the best strategy is to put her in the place of a child and tell her you'll talk to her when she can stop whining.
- Often times, (definitely true in my case), the crazy doesn't come out until you move in with them. One year in, everything was good. I got treated like a king, and even though there were little problems here and there, on the whole I enjoyed it. Not long after I moved in with her, it became apparent that this woman was bat **** crazy.
- Women have a megalomaniacal need to find a powerful man that they would find a fine specimen with which to pass on their genetic material. They then have an equally compelling need to attempt to dominate him. No matter how feeble and absurd those attempts may be.
- They have what can be described as nothing less than an obsession with marriage. They want married like a cat in heat wants to escape out of the window for a back alley gangbang with the toms from the wrong side of the tracks. After a while, their blitzkrieg towards the alter begins to sound like a cat too. MEEEEEEOW! Subtle hint. MEEEEEOOOW! I left engagement rings up on the IE browser. MEEEEOOOW! All my friends are getting married. MEEEEEOOOW! Eventually, as the marriage fever progresses, their hints become less and less clever until one day they literally make noises like a dying cat. Its the ultimate ego stroke to a woman. It doesn't get any better for them than to have found a man that wants to keep them forever. For them, it means they have won. 50% of the time today, this victory later means she will play with the spoils for a while, take half, and kick the man to the curb.
- Women will invent dramatic situations to add excitement to their lives. Boyfriend not jealous enough? "That mail guy creeps me out. I think he was looking at my ass." or "I wish my ex would stop bothering me."
For a spot of fun, the answers should be "The mail LADY is a Woman, dyke.". "I know what you mean. Sometimes I don't block their numbers either when I want a secret ego stroke."
Anyway, what finally brought this foolishness to an end, believe it or not were the fields of politics and religion. I'm on conservative side of center, but am tolerant of other viewpoints. Even if we disagree, I lend the same respect that one lends me for my ideas. That said, this girl was faaahahahahar left. Were talking communist left. And while I could maturely explain how I just didn't see communism as a viable form of government, and that I agreed our system does have holes, all she could do when the news came on was go UCLA-Berkely professor mode.
On the religious side, I'm not a practicing one, but coming from an italian family, I have an italian momma, who of course insists that anything less than a nice roman-catholic (no protestant *****s) girl will never be good enough for me. The girl, of course, was jewish (we never dared tell my mother this.)
Anyway, one day after work I just... left. I grabbed all my things that I cared about, got a hotel room, and had the water and electricity shut off. I called the land lord and paid the early lease termination fee, and got a new phone number. I haven't seen or heard from her in almost six months.
I've learned a lot though when it comes to maintaining control and interest over the long term.
- Becoming a viable person to hook up with is easy. Dealing with the consequences is not for the faint of heart.
- The game NEVER ends, six months, one year, fifty years, she is always going to be testing you and pushing the envelope to see just how much she can get away with and just how much you will put up with.
- Over the long term, arguments are inevitible. If nothing else, a woman will start an argument just to see how you will handle it. I've found the best strategy is to put her in the place of a child and tell her you'll talk to her when she can stop whining.
- Often times, (definitely true in my case), the crazy doesn't come out until you move in with them. One year in, everything was good. I got treated like a king, and even though there were little problems here and there, on the whole I enjoyed it. Not long after I moved in with her, it became apparent that this woman was bat **** crazy.
- Women have a megalomaniacal need to find a powerful man that they would find a fine specimen with which to pass on their genetic material. They then have an equally compelling need to attempt to dominate him. No matter how feeble and absurd those attempts may be.
- They have what can be described as nothing less than an obsession with marriage. They want married like a cat in heat wants to escape out of the window for a back alley gangbang with the toms from the wrong side of the tracks. After a while, their blitzkrieg towards the alter begins to sound like a cat too. MEEEEEEOW! Subtle hint. MEEEEEOOOW! I left engagement rings up on the IE browser. MEEEEOOOW! All my friends are getting married. MEEEEEOOOW! Eventually, as the marriage fever progresses, their hints become less and less clever until one day they literally make noises like a dying cat. Its the ultimate ego stroke to a woman. It doesn't get any better for them than to have found a man that wants to keep them forever. For them, it means they have won. 50% of the time today, this victory later means she will play with the spoils for a while, take half, and kick the man to the curb.
- Women will invent dramatic situations to add excitement to their lives. Boyfriend not jealous enough? "That mail guy creeps me out. I think he was looking at my ass." or "I wish my ex would stop bothering me."
For a spot of fun, the answers should be "The mail LADY is a Woman, dyke.". "I know what you mean. Sometimes I don't block their numbers either when I want a secret ego stroke."
Anyway, what finally brought this foolishness to an end, believe it or not were the fields of politics and religion. I'm on conservative side of center, but am tolerant of other viewpoints. Even if we disagree, I lend the same respect that one lends me for my ideas. That said, this girl was faaahahahahar left. Were talking communist left. And while I could maturely explain how I just didn't see communism as a viable form of government, and that I agreed our system does have holes, all she could do when the news came on was go UCLA-Berkely professor mode.
On the religious side, I'm not a practicing one, but coming from an italian family, I have an italian momma, who of course insists that anything less than a nice roman-catholic (no protestant *****s) girl will never be good enough for me. The girl, of course, was jewish (we never dared tell my mother this.)
Anyway, one day after work I just... left. I grabbed all my things that I cared about, got a hotel room, and had the water and electricity shut off. I called the land lord and paid the early lease termination fee, and got a new phone number. I haven't seen or heard from her in almost six months.
