"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So when do I resume contact after no contact? a couple of questions

That_guy

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Story (condensed from my last post plus additional details)

-girl and me confessed to each other that we like each other and that we will go out again
-the other day, because of me being a spineless f@g might have chased too much (learned the lesson the hard way) that was Tuesday as she gave me the shoulder when i went in for the kiss (now she makes excuses that we are in public, though thats how we say hello and say goodbye to each other since after thanksgiving)
-I deleted her number/texts etc. that same night, she texts
-I did not respond
-I know I am going to see her in campus so now whenever I walk through the hallways I have my sunglasses and earphones on (so I can use the "OH i did not see you/hear you" excuse to people who matters, or to her if she gets pissy about it)
-She texted me once on wednesday and today (a couple of days ago I would have responded, but look at the results it yielded)

a couple of questions
1. What do I do if she DOES confront me about it e.g. "why dont you answer my texts?"
2. Do I still greet her the same way? (with our little makeout thingie)
3. When do I break it? Since I am looking to go out again with this girl and possibly get some, or maybe an LTR, who knows.

I plan to resume contact if she works for it (e.g. calls me, or asks me out) but thats about it......I think I am developing oneitis!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Btw today, she ambushed me as I did the glasses and earphone things yesterday but now she got creative she starts snapping in the air like "hey" and I had no choice but to grunt at her and give her a quick one arm pat hug as I was legit late for class lmao...next time that happens do we ignore her?
 

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Q. What do I do if she DOES confront me about it e.g. "why dont you answer my texts?"

A. "I've been busy"
 
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