So... What's up with this chick?

[Tyson420]

A couple months ago my female friend set us up. This HB7 gives me her number so I text her the next day couple times, asked about school, the commute.

Our University is in a bad part of the city, basically notorious for it's ghettoness we joked about that.

This all back in early February. So I keep texting her that week asking what's up, no reply. The next day no reply.

I decided to get my psycho on and used my Google Voice account and used that to text her. "Hello is this N****?"

"She goes who is this?"

Minutes later she texts me that she's not looking for a relationship at the moment, canceled our date. I don't think she knows that the Google Voice person with the New Jersey area code was me.

AFC, I know. But I have to know, I hate secrets.

After that, I went to my sidechick.

Fast Forward to last Monday I was with our Friend who set us up. I was curious so I was like how is N****?

She goes yooooo you should text her.

I was like wtf because I was convinced she was happily ever after with the guy she ditched me for back in February.

It didn't work out, I don't have any details besides that. Believe me, I wanted to know. They were supposed to meet up in a Hotel, maaaan I was gonna take her to Dave and Busters.

I text her, she goes

"Hey I changed my phone who is this?"

Next thing, our matchmaker who I was with while I was textin N****. Matchmaker's phone chimed and she showed me her text.

It went like this. "LOL This guy David texted me but I knew who he was so I told him I changed my phone I really didn't"

My text went like how is school, I know schools almost done with exams and stuff.

Then blah blah. I haven't replied.

I don't know if she's worth pursuing, I think she's two-faced and untrustworthy.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I don't know if she's worth pursuing, I think she's two-faced and untrustworthy.

In what possible way could she be worth pursuing?

I don't understand the dilemma. She seems 100% uninterested. What's left to wonder about?

First time around, she stops returning your texts and cancels plans to hang out. Second time around, she pretends she doesn't know you and texts your friend to laugh about it. And here you are wondering if she's worth pursuing?

The first time around, she probably wasn't interested either. I don't understand what you're hanging onto. Work on your confidence, man. Get some new prospects.

EDIT

Also, I saw that she gave you her number. Then you text the next day, then you proceed to text more throughout that week.

Don't you think that might be a problem?

 

[Tyson420]

In what possible way could she be worth pursuing?

I don't understand the dilemma. She seems 100% uninterested. What's left to wonder about?

First time around, she stops returning your texts and cancels plans to hang out. Second time around, she pretends she doesn't know you and texts your friend to laugh about it. And here you are wondering if she's worth pursuing?

The first time around, she probably wasn't interested either. I don't understand what you're hanging onto. Work on your confidence, man. Get some new prospects.

EDIT

Also, I saw that she gave you her number. Then you text the next day, then you proceed to text more throughout that week.

Don't you think that might be a problem?

Maybe.

She didn't respond to any of those texts anyway so I'm guessing she made her decision already.

I'm really just bothered by it. I told all my friends and they expected it to work out.

It's just a pride issue, I hate it.

 

[Iceberg]

Sounds like you need to spend some time reading through this site. You have some work to do.

What was there to tell your friends about? All you got was a phone number. And upon getting that number, you got pretty much no responses from her.

If a phone number from an uninterested prospect excites you this much, you need to work a little harder, my friend. Getting a phone number is like, 5% of the battle.

It sounds like this girl gave you her number out of politeness, and you just kept trying to force a response from her. After one or two unanswered phone calls or texts, I think it was fair to call it quits. But you took it further than that.

I mean this in a nice way, but you have lots of work to do. Hopefully this experience gives you thicker skin.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

A couple months ago my female friend set us up. This HB7 gives me her number so I text her the next day couple times, asked about school, the commute.

Errors 1 and 2: Why do you need your female friend to set u up with a chick? Have you ever noticed how these scenarios never end up well? It communicates all the wrong things right off the bat:

1) you need another girl to do your dirty work
2) there's no existing attraction unless the target girl finds you extremely physically attractive


Secondly, you text her right away and put her to sleep talking about school?? Is that suppose to get her excited to see you??


Our University is in a bad part of the city, basically notorious for it's ghettoness we joked about that.

Again thats cool and all, but its not doing anything to help your cause. Focus on teasing, flirting, creating and building attraction!

This all back in early February. So I keep texting her that week asking what's up, no reply. The next day no reply.

Shaking head, face in hands. No bro, you don't keep texting once you don't get a reply! Your bothered that she isn't interested, yet your failing to see how you came off as a complete AFC, stalker who was desperate.

I decided to get my psycho on and used my Google Voice account and used that to text her. "Hello is this N****?"

Dude this is ridiculous... I could understand if you were in a relationship with this chick for some time and suspected foul play, but why on earth would you do this just to confirm that she's not interested in you? Or do you not understand that when you call/text and they don't respond that this clearly means "i'm not interested."???

Minutes later she texts me that she's not looking for a relationship at the moment, canceled our date. I don't think she knows that the Google Voice person with the New Jersey area code was me.

Wouldn't matter if the area code was South America, she knew it was you. Giving out her number and then randomly getting a weird call...hmm doesn't take Inspector Gadget to figure out who was behind the call. You are freaking her out and coming off as extremely stalkerish. And yes she definitely knew it was you 100%.

AFC, I know. But I have to know, I hate secrets.

This isn't AFC, this is straight up stalker status. And she wasn't keeping any secrets from you! Your failure to understand attraction, how it works and how to excite women lead you to this situation. The only secret is the one your keeping from yourself.......not understanding or admitting that you f-ed up and she's not interested in the least bit.

After that, I went to my sidechick.

So after getting rejected and then called out on your stalker status, you decided you wanted to bury yourself even more? Not smart.

Fast Forward to last Monday I was with our Friend who set us up. I was curious so I was like how is N****?

Curious about WHAT??!! Did you want the exact details of why she isn't interested in you? Do you need someone to tell you that you come off as a Grade A stalker??? I don't get what else you want here.

She goes yooooo you should text her.

Dude you gotta stop playing the 12 year old playground game. Your friend isn't giving you inside info that suddenly this chick who you stalked to death is suddenly interested, she's just telling you what SHE thinks. Obviously she doesn't know you stalked her friend to death.

I was like wtf because I was convinced she was happily ever after with the guy she ditched me for back in February.

She didn't ditch you for someone else, YOU were never in the picture period. Understand that, and read above to figure out why so you don't make the same mistakes in the future.

It didn't work out, I don't have any details besides that. Believe me, I wanted to know. They were supposed to meet up in a Hotel, maaaan I was gonna take her to Dave and Busters.

I text her, she goes

"Hey I changed my phone who is this?"

Next thing, our matchmaker who I was with while I was textin N****. Matchmaker's phone chimed and she showed me her text.

It went like this. "LOL This guy David texted me but I knew who he was so I told him I changed my phone I really didn't"

Wow confirmation that your a Grade A stalker and she would rather go out with Nixon's corpse than you because of your stalker like actions.

My text went like how is school, I know schools almost done with exams and stuff.

So you decided to bore her to death again with all that school jazz?? I should say it wouldn't matter what you say at this point, she thinks your a chump.

Then blah blah. I haven't replied.

I don't know if she's worth pursuing, I think she's two-faced and untrustworthy.

Like the others have said, she's not a two face or untrustworthy. Your game is weak and that's why she was not interested. Learn from your mistakes her, work on learning how attraction works, not to be so text happy and get a life outside of pursuing a girl. Maybe you do, but the way you come off is this chick has 100% of your attention.

I gave you some tough tough love in my response above, but its only so you can realize your errors and not make them again. You might not like the way I came off and I promise you I'm not an @ss----hole, but sometimes giving out some tough love works best.

Stick around here, ask questions, don't be afraid to keep messing up as you learn and craft your game. Just don't make the same mistakes over and over again.

Lastly, start reading the DJ Bible and get a solid understanding of some concepts that will improve your game and make you a ladies man instead of coming off as clingy and stalker-ish.


Good luck




PIMP

 

[Tyson420]

Your tough love is appreciated. I'll read this DJ Bible you speak of.

I called her to get first contact, and she asked me to text her. *shrug*

 

[Maximus Rex]

she asked me to text her. *shrug*

Why are you communicating with her on her terms? Let this be a lesson to you. Only communicate with targets via phone conversations.