So what's the deal with these two girls?

[Dan08]

Currently got 2 girls on the go, both different situations. Appreciate the advice brothers on why one is so drastically different to the other and how to progress with both.


Girl #1- Get on ok, knew I was interested in her. Things escalate, we have sex. She'll occasionally message me abuse on facebook or emoticons, asked me late last night if I was asleep (was working) leading me to think she wanted to talk about sh*t. And yet won't respond after seeing my reply?
I've occasionally dropped off her radar, thinking will do the same again.

Girl #2 - Friend of a friend. Get on like a house on fire, really fun. Both at seperate uni's, managed to get her down over christmas to visit. Major skype sesh last night (only the first, was aware of being friendzoned) but we're talking dirty, talking about ONS's (similar to how **** started with Girl #1) and how she needs a spooning partner etc etc. Even goes as far as playing with her tits, feeling them up and looking down her top etc to tease.
Ends up finishing 5 in the morning when we fell asleep on each other.


So my question is why is one so different from the other, how to get further with both and at the same time retain the power?



And i'm annoyed for posting this, I don't want to devote this much thinking time to it lol

 

[Wolfgang D]

People are different, it's as simple as that. Different strength in our behavior genes, and different experiences.

The first girl: she texted you (?) late at night asking if you were awake, and you texted her back, only to have her turn silent. Well, could be a couple of things. First, she changed her mind. She felt like talking to you for a moment, but then as it turned real she felt that she didn't want to. And maybe she had also asked some other guy, and when he replied she wanted to talk to him instead. Or maybe she just fell asleep. Or maybe, once you actually replied that late at night, it seemed that you were too eager, too much at her beck and call. Even though she asked you if you were awake. Wimmin....

Second girl: she visited you over Christmas? Good going. But that Skype session. You are aware that you could be friendzoned, you say. Yet you do it until 5 am! A girl could love talking to you online when you do it, but afterward feel embarrassed that you talked dirty. It could also take away the spark. Even if she asked for it. Sometimes women want something, then resent you for giving it to them.

This is even mentioned in the oldest surviving written European novel, Roland's Song, where it says that if a knight does everything his lady asks of him, she will like it at first, but soon will come to resent him for it. And that was written about 1,000 years ago.

 

[Dan08]

People are different, it's as simple as that. Different strength in our behavior genes, and different experiences.

The first girl: she texted you (?) late at night asking if you were awake, and you texted her back, only to have her turn silent. Well, could be a couple of things. First, she changed her mind. She felt like talking to you for a moment, but then as it turned real she felt that she didn't want to. And maybe she had also asked some other guy, and when he replied she wanted to talk to him instead. Or maybe she just fell asleep. Or maybe, once you actually replied that late at night, it seemed that you were too eager, too much at her beck and call. Even though she asked you if you were awake. Wimmin....

Second girl: she visited you over Christmas? Good going. But that Skype session. You are aware that you could be friendzoned, you say. Yet you do it until 5 am! A girl could love talking to you online when you do it, but afterward feel embarrassed that you talked dirty. It could also take away the spark. Even if she asked for it. Sometimes women want something, then resent you for giving it to them.

This is even mentioned in the oldest surviving written European novel, Roland's Song, where it says that if a knight does everything his lady asks of him, she will like it at first, but soon will come to resent him for it. And that was written about 1,000 years ago.

Hey Wolfgang, love your posts mate. Thanks for taking the time to reply here.

With girl #1 I don't know buddy, I was leaving like 2 hours between replies and I was texting whilst on shift so I figure she got bored.

Girl #2, will be visiting me at christmas. She hasn't visited me at christmas previously.
Aye it's possible but she teases me in ways you wouldn't a friend (i.e. playing with her t(i)ts)
And yeah, 5 am was nuts. Shoulda called it a night sooner but was too much fun