"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So what type of shoes are in?

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Im looking for a simple brown shoe that would look good for everyday wear with jeans (mostly express bootcut type jeans). I'm looking at Steve Madden and Kenneth Cole which is all i really know but most of their stuff looks a little too fancy for everyday use (unless your a celeb), and the lugz type boots look too clunky/ghetto.
I'm not a big shoe person so those are the only companies im familiar with (I'm not into sneakers), can anyone else throw some good ones out there?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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buy what ever kind you like. This is not the cosmo forum.
 

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like omg those lugz just looks SOOOO ghetto fabulous! rock those girlfriend!

haha after reading self's reply i couldnt resist. i go for simple ****, skater shoes/pumas stuff like that. white kid shoes basically.
 

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Do NOT get Kenneth Cole, unless you want to look like every other American Jackass.

Get some brown Frye harness engineer boots; women think they're hot, but they're not too out there. Tough as hell, too.
 

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Instead of worrying about what's in, why not worry about what looks good? Who knows, maybe you'll start the next new style if you do things right.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Doc Martens have always been my "daily drivers". There's a variety of colors in the standard 5 eye low rider. I've had brown, I've had black, I've had reddish-brown... I'm spoiled now, they're soooo comfortable once they are broke in.

In fact, I found some box-toe docs with a smooth leather finish that I polished to a mirror shine (ex-military) that have become my "fux me shoes".

Check out the doc martens website.
 

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I agree with Vulpine, Docs are awesome. You can wear them a lot of ways and they're really comfortable.

What's hot right now? A narrower, pointier toebox. The square toe is dying an ignoble death slowly but surely. So find shoes with more of an elongated last. Banana Republic has some okay shoes (I work there and generally hate their stuff), better than Kenneth Cole in my opinion.

I wear winklepicker shoes like these a lot: http://www.vixensandangels.com/images/Shoes/UNDmodbwwink.jpg
 

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I'll take one of those, a pair of them, and some of these...

After re-visiting the Doc Martens website I just ordered some narrow square toe slip-ons, some "casual dress tennies", and Doc Marten "flip flops". Since when did Dr. Marten start offering those? Gimme, Gimme, Gimme.

Oh, be sure to check out their "industrial" section also. There are some sweet steel toes and slip-ons hiding on there.

I wear a 6.5 wide US size, and docs have been the only shoe that will accomodate. The leather stretches, and the UK 6 sizing is only slightly long in the toe. If you have an odd foot size, I definitely recommend docs over anything else - the quality is unbeatable for the price.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cool I'll check em out

And I think I somewhat worded my question wrong, I'm not looking for what's "in", my problem is that I'm not sure what type of shoes go with jeans and which ones are meant for dress slacks. The doc martens all look pretty good for jeans, but like at the Steve Madden website it gets a little hard to tell (for me at least), some of the brown oxfords they have look really nice but maybe a little too nice for jeans, but again I don't know that much about shoes.
 

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cant think of a user name

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Dunlop Volleys :D [1] [2].

Actually I don't mind them, some people think they are really ugly but most people wear them for tennis or day-to-day stuff.


EDIT: I think there's a brown shoe on the 2nd link :)
 

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can't think of a username, those dunlop "diagonal punch volleys", #7 on link 2, are sweet! I want! But, I rummaged around and searched online and came up short for a place to get them. I've found "green flash" everywhere, but the volleys just don't show up.

There is a Japanese shoe company, Jump, that makes a sweet shoe also: "Ball" is the model name. They are a black leather slip-on/tennis hybrid. I can't find a place to order them from either...

How come these shoes aren't available in the US? Does anyone have links to a place that will ship them?

Ideas? Help?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah, I searched e-bay. It only seems like American vendors are listing there. I'm surprised that I can't find a .uk or .au type addy in searches for e-commerce.
 
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