so what should i do because my girlfreind want me to talk on the phone

[stoner1129]

My girlfriend wants me say more when i'm on the phone but i know i'm not supposed so

well i'm in a psychology class right now at my school and we had to ask someone we have a relationship with about our relationship(just like how they would rate it and what we could do to make it better). so i asked her the 2 questions and she said our relationship is at an 8 and the thing i can do to make it better is to talk to her more on the phone, i know what u guys r gonna say to hangout with her more but we can't because of her dad, and when we do hangout i'm spontaneous(kind of) like i'll kino her and stuff but i don't know what to do now becuase i know about not talking too much on the phone but i don't want her to get bored and leave me over it. so any advice?


ps. also what is a good gift to give to for your first month anniversary

 

[Supremo]

ps. also what is a good gift to give to for your first month anniversary

Before I start... no gift for one month. She'll be happy you remembered. Just be romantic if you have to, and give her a Romeo and Juliet style kiss where you support her back and lower her over your knee. Chicks dig it.

Anyway...

Dawg talking on the phone was, and partially still is one of my biggest sticking points.

Look up "branching" on conversations.
A quick summary of branching is listening to what she says, pick a topic, and "branch" off into that. So if the starting conversation is the trunk of the tree, the new conversations are the branches, and so on.

So if she talks about how she went to the mall with some friends, ask her what she got, who the friends were, how long she was there for, etc.

It seems boring, but after time it'll come so natural. I'd recommend checking out some posts on Phone Game, I know there's a ton out there.

Just don't focus on talking on the phone to her, just relax and talk to her like you would a friend. It's fun to make fun of her on the phone (immitate her girly voice, the phone cut out for a sec and rephrase what she said to something totally different)... really anything.

 

[john paul]

ps. also what is a good gift to give to for your first month anniversary

A high school relationship? Get her nothing. Maybe take her out somewhere nice and have a fun night but dont be spending money on a gift for a girl you have been dating for one month.

 

[EFFORT]

i don't want her to get bored and leave me over it. so any advice?


ps. also what is a good gift to give to for your first month anniversary

sounds mad needy man. Whos the "prize" here, you or her?

 

[stoner1129]

ok well i was just wondering about a gift because i think it would be ackward if she got me something and i didn't get her anything, and yeah i might be letting her become the prize because i honestly don't know what to do but i'm also working at making myself the prize which probably doesn't make sense, so can someone give me an example of a push-pull because i'm not sure how to do one

 

[Kmart1208]

Well if you want to become the prize then you shouldn't get her a 1 month anniversary gift. And plus you shouldn't be worried so much about the gift versus just making her happy, besides its only one month that you've been together so you shouldn't be taking it too seriously.

 

[Axcell]

You need some MAJOR help! Have you read the DJ Bible yet?
For starters, NO gift as mentioned earlier. If she is not going to get you a gift, just give her a kiss and let her know that you remembered th day. However, if she gets you a gift, you do not want to appear as cheap. My advice is to ask her to go somewhere, and spend money in that area. That way, both you AND her are able to enjoy with each other. I normally ask girls to go to an arcade or amusement park. (I personally do not like movies and prefer to do things that are hands on with girls I go out with. For example, in an arcade you can play many 2 player games with your girlfriend, which helps develop rapport and comfort around each other. If you are good at playing a specific game, those are extra points. It all matters on the girl though, some girls do not like doing activities such as this, so just watch it and get to know your girl better.)

Now, you are probably wondering: "Axcell, how do I become the prize in this relationship?" It's simple. Stop worrying about purchasing her gifts and pleasing her. You are the DJ. You are confident, charismatic, and every single girl you know wants to be with you. (You need to have this frame of mind everyday. Do not come off as ****y, but just have this attitude in your mind, and your actions will change accordingly.) Have a good body posture (Standing up straight, shoulders back, etc.)
Do you work out? If not, I suggest it. Not for the fact that you will become stronger, but it may increase your confidence, and from what it seems, that is an area you seem to lack in.

Finally, my last piece of advice is you need to make your life more interesting. You seem like you are scared that you will run out of things to talk about if you talk too much, etc. Go out more! Watch movies, and ALWAYS have an interesting story you can talk about - your life cannot be that boring! And if it is, fix it, immediately. Nobody enjoys awkward silences, and you do not want to be labeled as somebody who has those frequently while engaging in conversations. My suggestion to fix this problem is to rehearse/memorize some stories that you feel will appear as interesting/funny.

About your phone issue, do NOT form a habit of talking to her on the phone 24/7. Keep the good conversations for "in person." The phone should only be used to plan events that you and her will be able to spend time with each other. If she truly wants to see you, her father will not be an issue, I promise you. The most protective girls can always find a way out, you just need to ensure you do not give in when she says that. YOU are the prize, remember what I said!

Anyway, there are MANY more things I could have pointed out/said, however, I would be here all night/day. If you have any specific questions you would like to ask me, feel free to PM me.

I hope I helped you out,
Axcell.

 

[stoner1129]

well we got to hangout this weekend because we went with the wrestling team to some hotsprings, and now everyone knows like her brothers and everything and they're threatening to tell her dad if we don't break up, it's bad if her dad finds out because her dad is a d!ckhead with her and especially with her dating older guys even though it's just 2 years, so she wants to act like we broke up but i guess i'm not being a dj and being a little scared and thinking that then she will actually want to break up with me so i'm like really confused right now and don't fvcking know what to think or do about this situation, so can i get any help?

 

[The Amen Corner]

Pssh.

Personally I'd say you don't need that ****. I'd say drop it.. you can keep her as a contact and what not, and maybe try again later. But if she sees that you are so needy as to put up with the scared ****less BS, is that really going to make her want you more? She might see you as brave, but she might also unconsciously see this as the first step towards a dominating relationship in which you will never let go.

I'd ask how interested is this girl? Do you feel you can just walk away? If you do so, and she is still interested, I think you will have a decent foot in if you'd like to try again later (if you are still interested and the situation changes. If it doesn't -- then forget it.)

The whole secret love thing -- are you really that crazy about this girl? And if you are -- don't you think that's a weakness?

That's my two cents.

 

[stoner1129]

well she doesn't know that i'm feeling like this, she doesn'y know that i'm wondering if she's going to break up or anything, i just want to keep going honestly right now because it's kind of been like this sh!t since the begining but not as bad so i can kind of deal with it, i do like her and being around her, but also so i can get some, she's actually like really horny and so idk i want to wait because i think it will be easy to get some, if someone can think of something else or what not