so what should be the next step?

[oznov78]

met michelle through one of my friends...talked to her for a bit on fri night when we all went out to get some beer. didn't ask for her # but gave her my phone while we were all walking to another place and told her to put her number in. and since she didn't exactly deny or say anything back, i'm guessing that was a good sign. she had to bail cos she had a project to do but that was that.

my friend karen was also with us and she has become closer to michelle the past 2 days and they've been hanging out a lot. which is good for me cos karen and me are really good friends and she's helping me out with michelle!

she hung out with michelle on sat for lunch and said 40% of the talks were about me...positive sign...she also thought i was good looking...again positive. didn't ask whether i had a gf or anything like that. basically she has a good opinion about me which is always a good thing.

she and karen met up again today for dinner with 2 other friends of ours, paul and kenny ....they had called me earlier but i had other plans and plus i didnt know at the time michelle was gonna be there too...anyways.... karen told me she thought paul was good looking too and kenny had a good body.

i had actually msg'd her in the evening asking her how her project was coming along and also we were talking about a restaurant on friday night and we couldn't remember the name of the place. and it struck me earlier this evening and thats when i msg'd her in a casual way telling her the name and asking her if she was making any progress on her report..and also i wanted her to have my # she msg'd me back and asked how i was doin and she had been busy working on it all weekend and was unhappy...i msg'd her back saying not to stress over the project too much and that it would be over soon and she should come out for a drink this weekend with the whole gang to take a break. she says she will see and that 1 drink will turn to 3 and she will prob get drunk...so basically we were havin a good convo back and forth.

i talked to karen earlier and she told me that they were all havin dinner and she was busy msg'ing someone but she didnt know who it was but now she realizes it was me so thats a positive sign again.

however, she also told me that michelle is meeting up with her ex this wednesday to discuss things cos they had taken a 'break'......

so whats my next step?

 

[LikRetsam]

Love to read it but edit it and make it into paragraphs, I can't read stuff like that!

 

[oznov78]

bump?

 

[oznov78]

cmon...anyone? help me out here...i'm a novice DJ

could use some of the great advice that floats around here

 

[oznov78]

bumping it one last time. i am new here and i thot ppl were pretty helpful...but no one seems to be helping me out...

 

[squirrels]

That "ex" thing could be a problem, but it's really none of your concern. She's never mentioned him to you, right? That's a good sign. If she didn't want to be with you, she would've brought him up by now. He's an "ex", remember? Don't sweat it.

Just show her how much better and stronger a man you are than her ex. Keep playing the game like you have been, continue to challenge her, continue to show her that you're a sexual being, and keep creating an atmosphere she enjoys being in.

Just keep "pushin' it right".

 

[oznov78]

thanks squirrels!

when i hung out with her on fri night, we were talking about something and her bf came up in the convo..and i asked her where he was and she said they broke up. so i'm guessing that was a good sign for me

i msg'd her casually again this evening..i was in class and getting bored so i msg'd her to tell her that i was gettin bored in class and asked her what she was upto. she replied within 10 mins and was casual as well...that she had just gotten off work and was taking a break from the project and going to the gym. i didn't reply back after that.

i'm thinking of not msg'ing her for a while now and to see whether she would take the initiative and msg me or call me or something for a change.

hows that?

 

[squirrels]

I think the text-messaging needs to stop. Your relationship has moved past that point. Send her a txt only if you have somethign to say. When you're bored in class, it can help to talk to someone, but how would you feel if you had a gf and she was always MSGing you with stuff like, "I'm bored, what're you doing?"

Also, don't wait too long to make your move. I hope there's been some kino between you...next time you get her alone, see if you can't up the intimacy level a little. You don't wanna be friendzoned.

 

[chlywly]

This is kind of a no brainer... Who she meets up with or what she does is non of your business, you shouldn't concern yourself with it. Just initiate some major flirting, and ask her out! so you two can be alone somewhere, stop hanging as a group!!.

Forget the ex' their finished, especially if she likes you, "taking a break" means its over, sooner than later.