Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
-ducaro said:
Is it really the money or the confidence that comes with money? Money gives you a lot of advantages over the average guy, but in no way is it going to "seal the deal". Money gives you the edge of being able to dress nice, drive a nice car, and just get initial attention, but if you have no personality then she is going to get bored. My friend Rob has money, drives a brand new car, dresses nice, and has nice things, but compared to him I pull a lot more chicks, cause I have the confidence and skills.ducaro said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You do make some sense, but the fact money is the most important variable for a woman.aliasguy said:
ducaro said:
Thats true they don't care when you tell them you don't have money!! thats because they don't really care and will fvck with you happily till someone with money and personality came into her life and she'll dump you like a potato.guru1000 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ducaro said:Thats true they don't care when you tell them you don't have money!! thats because they don't really care and will fvck with you happily till someone with money and personality came into her life and she'll dump you like a potato.
what I am trying to say its a win win situation... you will get the woman, but if you don't have money.. she will only stick with you till somebody else with money came along... and then if that guy has money and no personality.. she will stick with him, but fvck behind his back.. probably fvck with you!!
If you are ambitious man with no money, no doubt she will be impressed that you are ambitious.. but the moment, another ambitious man WITH money comes along, you are gone like the wind.
you see the trend??
and this is with the majority of the women.. not all.
That would be me.guru1000 said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.