"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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so what do i do in this case?

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i'll let u people run this one for me. got a girl's # last week. we texted like 2 days. now this week im tryna set up the meet. so..... i texted her askn wat she got planned for today. she said not much just studyn. i told her well she might need a study breaker so how about we hit the gym at a certain time. she said she got class at that time

what do i do now? suggest an alternative time or take a L for this one and try to set somethn up another day this week?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Maybe suggest something else other than the gym a couple of days later, some girls really don't like the gym because they feel too self-concious, maybe she wants to look her best?
 
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Dom João said:
Maybe suggest something else other than the gym a couple of days later, some girls really don't like the gym because they feel too self-concious, maybe she wants to look her best?
during our bak n forth texts last week she told me last week was her first time going to the gym 'cause she usually has no one to go w/ n so i was like, well text me next time u goin 2 the gym 'cause i usually go by myself since my bro's r in class. she said sure n i can even help her out. n she said that sounds good.

so i don't think she dislikes the gym
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lonerenaissance said:
try again in like 3-4 days. if shes buzy again then next here. always use the two strike policy.
so how should i reply to this text?

"ok cool. next time?"
 
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i think im just not gonna reply. just leave it at that. i'll see her when i see her. but in 2 days, i'll try n set something up again
 

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asking a girl to hit the gym with you aint something i would have done
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Set up something else with her, and if she says no without giving an alternative, or if she flakes, cross her ass off your list.

Case closed.
 

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Texting like two days just isn't enough, build some confort and rapport, don't be too eager to meet her, play it cool, you have other things in your life. Don't ask her out in two days, ask her out again in a week or two. Try it, asking her out again too soon will only lower her interest.

Despite what everyone here says texting can't be used just for setting up a date. Most of the girls just have to know you a bit to go out with you.
 
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