So what about us ugly guys?

[KillingTime]

So my confidence is pretty good, I don't do anything that would be considered "AFC"..... but i'm far from the typical "good looks" standard. I act like a 10 but I got no problem being honest, i'm around a 4 or 5. I've tried dressing in really GQ type clothing and hanging out at clubs etc.... but that's just not me, I don't enjoy all that stuff and just feel odd b/c I really don't look the part. I've seen really ugly guys dating some incredibly hot girls, but it seems that if your ugly you pretty much HAVE to be a thug/druggie/trouble-maker to get girls (during the college years, once your older money seems to do the trick). i don't know, some really ugly guy dressed in neat clothes and being all proper just ends up projecting a geek-type image.... if your ugly, you gotta be the bad guy. Is this about right? Is it a different approach for us ugly guys? Confidence is key in the end no matter what, but for a good-looking guy the "Hook" is the fact that he is attractive... that chatches a girls attention, what's the "Hook" for an ugly guy? The "bad guy" image?

 

[Grey Fox]

How you see yourself is what you become in the eyes of others. Meaning that when you stand around dressed to the nines and feel out of place, then that feeling of awkwardness that lingers in your mind is going to come off when you interact with people. You don't have to dress like GQ. Instead dress well, but not so well that you feel like you are in another person's skin.

-Grey Fox

 

[ScrewIt]

just dress in whatever makes you feel comfortable.
think about this, you cant force yourself to dress in a skirt & tanktop if u woudlnt feel comfortable would you?

ppl will feel yoou're uncomfortable

 

[JB101]

The key is to find a style that suits you. I use to wear baggy shirts to hide my skinniness and it only made the problem worst. Just by changing my shirt size from large to medium, I felt more comfortable and more confident.

Take pictures of yourself in different styles and see what works. Some guys look better in short hair. Some in longer hair. Some with a skater boy look. An "ugly" guy in neat clothing could be a preppy professional. With an air of sophistication.

 

[quest]

i don't know how good looking/ugly i am..

i've got confidence in my looks, and i feel better looking. but i think i look the same..
i used to normally be told i was 6/7, but that could be boosted up so the people arn't being mean to me..
but i've noticed the same problem. i dress smartly, mainly tight*ish jeans, nice trendy t-shirt, and a nice trendy jacket.. i do my hair in messy spikes..
but what i've noticed is, i look like a geek.
but my girlfriend says all her friends tell her i'm cute..
so i'm not sure..
but geek or not, just have confidence and u'll get some chicks..
its really all it takes..

 

[Seeph]

Think of it this way..

When your in a bad, pissed off mood, and you interact with someone they can pickup on your mood.

Well the same thing happens with your looks.. If you feel like your out of place, or that you're not attractive enough, others will pick up on that negative energy and think the same. If you're feeling good about yourself and feel C&F then girls will think," Hey that guy is kinda funny.. I love his confidence."

So just be confident in your own style and person, and others will like you for it.

 

[Dirtheart]

I act like a 10 but I got no problem being honest, i'm around a 4 or 5.

From what I have been learning, a 5 who acts like a 10 is considerably more attractive to women than a 10 acting like a 5! As long as you continue to act like a 10 (and dress, move and talk like a 10), you're ahead of most guys.

You don't need to be a thug or a geek. Look at Robert Deniro. He's not what you'd call pin up material and he's neither a thug or a geek, but has more women lusting after him than most guys could imagine. It's all in his attitude and his image. This could be your "hook" if you can carry it off.

 

[squirrels]

If other guys dress/act like they're dealing drugs, dress/act like you're running the cartel.

You don't have to wear a monkey-suit and tie, but a nice collared shirt and some slacks doesn't hurt. And make sure to smile and show some confidence when talking to the ladies. I don't think it's necessarily looks that are your problem...guys get away with a lot more in that department if they display confidence and masculinity and an ability to have fun.

Of course, if you're more like a 2 or 3 than a 4 or 5, then maybe the club isn't the best forum for you to be meeting women. Club hoochies often aren't worth the trouble anyway and they're looking for guys they can show off to their friends and/or take home for a one-night fling.

 

[Golden Arms]

Originally posted by Dirtheart


. Look at Robert Deniro. He's not what you'd call pin up material and he's neither a thug or a geek, but has more women lusting after him than most guys could imagine. It's all in his attitude and his image.

I'm sure the fact that he's a worldwide famous actor with millions in the bank has nothing to do with it

 

[DJ_Dork]

What about that Subway guy Jared. He seems confident, he lost weight so that means he is willing to change himself or has passion for life. Yet he wears glasses, geeky clothing, and has a major geek aura around him. So you think confidence/passion with life has anything to do with getting a girl? Nah I don't think so.

It's masculinity, you don't fake it, IT IS in all of us. Some of us nice guys hide it because it might make people judge us that if we act like a jerk - people will not be friends with us, we hate being judged. But that is WHAT you want. You want them to judge you as a MAN not as someone who doesn't have any sexuality in themselves.

If people judge you as someone they don't want to hang around with, SO BE IT. They weren't interested in being your friend/acquantice - they wanted someone to supplicate their needs ("I'm looking for someone to be my footpad")