"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So we went from very sexual to somewhat platonic to...PLEASE HELP!!

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Ok I need some help with this young lady I've known for a little over a year now. At first when we started out she told me she wasn't her type. 2 months later I find myself on a train with her kissing on her neck and massaging her nipples. I'm going to give you a full rundown on this girl.

She has never met her father. She's 1 year older than me which is 21. She is not that financially stable but not broke either. And she is somewhat immature. However she's adorable. Her last 3 boyfriends have cheated on her but while having sex with her within the first month of dating. Those 3 boyfriends ocured within the span of about a year.

So here's the gist of whats basically happened. From the months of September to January we are VERY sexual with each other but I try to stay away from sex. after 2 months of knowing her she tells me that "all guys are the same. After they get what they want they become distant". I assure her that I would never do that and stay away from the subject of penetration. We do also do everything else but oral and anal. Fast forward to December. She leaves for vacation in Brazil then comes back in a month acting VERY different. The things I used to get away with like playing with her nipples during a movie or putting my hands between her legs don't fly anymore. Her excuse is "that's just too much".

This goes on from The end of January to the end of April where I get too damn sexually frustrated and bluff her. I tell her "you know what, one day I'm going have to stop talking to you and I don't want it to be like that" she asks why and I say "because i can only be sexually intimate with one person and if its someone else then they get ALL of my attention"...she later submits to me the same day by letting me having my way with her (I opted to not have sex). Fast forward again. This girl is back to her ways of being sexually backwards and I dont know what the hell to do. Can someone help me with tips on how to make things as they used to be? Or at least explain to me if/why things would (n)ever be the same? =/
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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scrouds

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SHe banged someone in brazil. Probably found another dude on the side at home.

Plus what the hell kind of crazy shiit are you running. No oral, no anal from her side, you don't want sex. What is this, toe sucking? Heavy petting.
 
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Da Realist

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So you gave her an ultimatum to have sex or go, she was ready to put out, and you backed away from her basically calling your bluff? My advice is to go have sex with another woman if you aren't official with this one. But you can't be against having sex but trying to feel her up all the time.
 

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Why are you not having sex with her?

What the hell lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i thought she got fvcked on her vacation too...but when i finger her she gets mad when i try to put two fingers and only half on my middle finger fits..and even after fingering her the next day she tells me how sore it is...
 

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if she was with 3 dudes in a span of a year, and you didn't get anything in a year...don't you think its time to start talking to other girls?
 

horaholic

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"VERY SEXUAL" to you doesnt include penetration? Oh, or Oral, and anal? So.... you're just her girlfriend? Cuz she goes farther than that with her girlfriends.

in other words, you're the guy she 'wont feel like a slut with.' You're her bytch. sorry to tell you this.

You didnt act like a sexual man with her, and therefore she has turned her sights elsewhere. Learn from this! And... learn what 'very sexual' means.
 

yuppaz

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why in the f*ck aren't you banging this chick????
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Her being less affectionate is usually a sign of being guilty of something. Usually, when an affair occurs.

I would say find a new girl who puts out. Maybe, thats why she had 3 boyfriends cheat on her in the last year... Cause, she wasnt givin up the pvssy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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You are wuss. Why are you not having sex with her? Trying to prove you are different eh? Dude please! SHE HAD SEX WITH THOSE GUYS. She likes sex. SHe loves cawk. You are the problem here. Your being all mr nice guy instead of Mr. Stabs Girls With His Beef Sword.

Sept to Jan....She got tired of waitng for you to figure out where your balls where and fvck her. So she got some stranger in a strange land. Now you just seem like a little boy who wants to play grab ass and cop a feel, not a man who will bend her over the bed and pound her until she cums.

ultimatums are the last refuge of the weak and powerless. And then when she submitted you STILL didn't fvck her? Are you a man? How old are you?
Stop being scared of the pvssy and hit that ****, and stop being a little boy about it. Christ church! Good luck.
 

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seriously stop being a girl and bang her. Thats what she wants. Think about it, you aren't acting like a man. Men want to have sex on the first date, not being the shining knight in armor to save the girl from herself. Thats little grade school **** dude...
 

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She wants you to rape her.
 

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I realize the ways of my mistakes. I will now attempt to smash this girl with the might of one thousand silver back gorillas. If I fail lulz will be had and her n00dz will be posted. Wish me luck.
 
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