So... ummm... What am I suppose to think again...?

[TheHumanist]

It been a while, but I just feel the need to post again after googling around and Squirrels thread.

So... remember NLG? Well, I just stumbled on the other spectrum's forum. Unlike NLG, it seems there's never been any discussion on this site of its existence, I think I'll leave the link out because I don't think they want the site to be known.

Well, I guess it explains why those flame ways have quieted down even with NLG attracting the other camp away is gone now too.


Nevermind, that's not my point anyway, I guess just reading around that forum's discussion of SS and reminding me of NLG's version of SS with Squirrel's recent thread, it makes me think: the questions for me has never been resolved. At its most fundamental, the question is... what is the truth?

More specifically, what is it suppose to implicate? What does it mean to my actions? Only the most feminized "men" would deny any of the uncomfortable truths thrown around, but what about the implications? The statement of the amorality of women or what turns on their attraction or etc. implies to the mindset of a man.

When I see a girl... a pretty one, an old acquaintance, perhaps even one who earned some of my respect by her level-headedness... what I am supposed to see or think? What Squirrels sees? What does RT sees? What does Jophil sees?


It's all confusing to me.

I don't want to spend too much time more, I think you readers know what I am talking about. Squirrels's posts about what's in his mind explains better than I can. I doubt anything get resolved if this discussion actually gains traction, but I need to think.

Am I suppose to feel disgust and revulsion like Squirrels? How's that suppose to work with a wife (yes, that's to you RT)? Am I suppose to be that emotionally numb and amoral? Or at least expect any girl I talk to (replacing emotional with sympathy) to be like that?



Edit: I found name thrown over there, as a shout out: You know, I try and keep an open mind. Trying to not fall in the realm of some beta moralist trying to justify his beliefs or some ego-invested poster with confirmation bias. Yet, my leanings is still the same and feel that I'm not so open after all... Still, it is part of why I stopped posting. I'm perfectly aware of Pook's last post. Though as noted above, I'm not quite sure how to take such truth to my life. I can keep my heart guarded and keep a critical eye if a girl is respecting me or not without conflict, I can be weary and say a girl can cheat without conflict where some go in denial, but that's different than viewing them as completely amoral or the other stuff.

 

[Quiksilver]

In my honest opinion, you are thinking way way too much about this.

 

[KingofHearts]

The aftermath of getting burned - Yes I am more cautious towards women. I judge and qualitfy much harder. I see through a lot of the bs that people spew. Knowing what i know does make me bitter towards a lot of people. But I understand that it was my perception that changed. Knowing what i know now, I might never commit to a woman again.

So what do i do now? - The best thing I can do, and the best thing anybody can do is to apply what you know without being cynical. For me, the lack of quality, dependable women means I will have more time and energy to focus on myself.

When I was a teenager, I would think about the countless hours I spent daydreaming about women. I would get frustrated and think about what i could have accomplished if I didn't spend so much time thinking about women. Now, I live it. I only think about women a small percentage compared to the other prioties in my life. Its liberating. I've made myself the prize just by rearranging my priorites. Now women have to compete with my hobbies, my work that i love, working out, the beach and a myriad of other things that I would rather do than hear a woman ramble on about her pointless day and why her cellphone sucks.

It is sad and disappointing to see the aftermath of the sexual revolution. We all have the choice to join them (have sex with many women) or fight it (by only dealing with women that have earned your time and attention). Your decision will come down to core values and beliefs. I choose to keep my resources for myself until a woman comes along that is deserving of what I have to give. Until that time I will consider offers and will give women a chance to be the exception to the rule. If nothing else, I won't lie on my deathbed regretting all the wasted years on chasing girls. Chasing my dreams seems to be the better wager in my life.

Ok good, so I'm not the only one to notice that a lot of posts like Squirrel's have been popular lately. It got me thinking. I've been comparing the good parts of my failed marriage versus the mediocrity of my relationships following that. Again, I was reminded by my date on July 4th just how boring most women are, I would have had more fun by myself.

The above is what I had to say in a thread I posted earlier today. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=175985 It is generic, but it addresses your question. It baffles me that people don't think long and hard about these kind of issues, but they are probably the same guys that *** inside a girl with no protection.