neghitzbrah
Don Juan
So today, on the way back from work. I was cold approached on the streets. Now this has happened to me many times in the past, but not since I've started practicing my DJing and literally changed my whole wardrobe. I was wearing a leather jacket with a dark blue polo shirt, dark jeans, black shoes, my nice ass watch and necklace (which I get lots of compliments on). Felt pretty DJ
So I looked at this from a different perspective. I took a different role in this scenario. Lemme break it down:
HB7: Excuse me
Negz: (takes off headphones) Hey, what's up? -- felt kind of skeptical
HB7: Oh, how nice of you to take off your headphones :smile:
She introduces herself, then I could tell she's one of those charity donations people.
Negz: Hi HB7, my name is Negz. -- at this point I was totally comfortable and knew what was going down. You see, normally I would be on the opposite end of the spectrum, but in this case she was. EVEN THOUGH her intentions were for a donation, it's still the same game.
She continues to ask where I'm from, and I answer her questions one-worded.. but then she starts asking me opinionated and open-ended questions. Smart move!
HB7: So how do you like the city?
Negz: I love it! It's great not to need a car and stuff blah blah blah
HB7: That's cool, I wanna move into the city some day
Negz: Where do you live?
HB7: I live in ___. It's nice there but it's not as great because I need a car to get around
Negz: Wait, you do realize that that's in the city haha
-- I was so comfortable because I didn't even think twice about asking for her number, flirting, etc... --
HB7: ::Laughs:: Yeah, but you live in ___ so that's a lot better
Negz: Actually, I live in ___ but work in ___.
HB7: Ohhhh
More fluff talk. At this point I start thinking, she never asked me for...
Negz: So HB8, what brings you into the city today?
HB7: Oh I'm working right now --she looks down and completely forgot about the donation stuff--
Negz: Haha, you forgot? What charity do you work for?
She laughed it off. Guess it was a dumb moment for her. She explains what kind of charity it was. I said that I was saving my money since I just moved. Then she continues to ask more questions.
Negz: I just moved from ___. Definitely not as fun as living in the city
HB7: What's it like living out there?
More fluff talk.
I thought I did pretty well. Held EC the whole time, made her feel comfortable and we continued to talk for a bit after I said no to the donation lol. She kept checking me out. Not just my style of clothing, but my posture/stance, hand gestures. My body language was perfect, I was screaming confidence, unintentionally.
Negz: You know, I have to say that if I had the money I would donate. You're really good at this because you have a lot of confidence and not afraid to approach strangers.
HB7: ::smiles: thank you, yeah I only started about a month ago. You seemed really nice because you actually took off your headphones to speak to me. No one really does that.
Negz: ::smiles:: That's cause I was having a good day. Well it was nice talking to you HB7, I gotta head out now
We shake hands and this HB7 doesn't let go for a while and continues smiling and talking. So wtf, was this her extreme gaming for donations or not. I would've # closed otherwise.
Whatever it was I didn't care during the convo, I felt no pressure. Just looked at it as a regular conversation. THIS is the right mindset to have when approaching people. Makes them feel comfortable and it eases the situation. I finally realized that this is what people mean when they say "don't go in expected an f or # close."
So I looked at this from a different perspective. I took a different role in this scenario. Lemme break it down:
HB7: Excuse me
Negz: (takes off headphones) Hey, what's up? -- felt kind of skeptical
HB7: Oh, how nice of you to take off your headphones :smile:
She introduces herself, then I could tell she's one of those charity donations people.
Negz: Hi HB7, my name is Negz. -- at this point I was totally comfortable and knew what was going down. You see, normally I would be on the opposite end of the spectrum, but in this case she was. EVEN THOUGH her intentions were for a donation, it's still the same game.
She continues to ask where I'm from, and I answer her questions one-worded.. but then she starts asking me opinionated and open-ended questions. Smart move!
HB7: So how do you like the city?
Negz: I love it! It's great not to need a car and stuff blah blah blah
HB7: That's cool, I wanna move into the city some day
Negz: Where do you live?
HB7: I live in ___. It's nice there but it's not as great because I need a car to get around
Negz: Wait, you do realize that that's in the city haha
-- I was so comfortable because I didn't even think twice about asking for her number, flirting, etc... --
HB7: ::Laughs:: Yeah, but you live in ___ so that's a lot better
Negz: Actually, I live in ___ but work in ___.
HB7: Ohhhh
More fluff talk. At this point I start thinking, she never asked me for...
Negz: So HB8, what brings you into the city today?
HB7: Oh I'm working right now --she looks down and completely forgot about the donation stuff--
Negz: Haha, you forgot? What charity do you work for?
She laughed it off. Guess it was a dumb moment for her. She explains what kind of charity it was. I said that I was saving my money since I just moved. Then she continues to ask more questions.
Negz: I just moved from ___. Definitely not as fun as living in the city
HB7: What's it like living out there?
More fluff talk.
I thought I did pretty well. Held EC the whole time, made her feel comfortable and we continued to talk for a bit after I said no to the donation lol. She kept checking me out. Not just my style of clothing, but my posture/stance, hand gestures. My body language was perfect, I was screaming confidence, unintentionally.
Negz: You know, I have to say that if I had the money I would donate. You're really good at this because you have a lot of confidence and not afraid to approach strangers.
HB7: ::smiles: thank you, yeah I only started about a month ago. You seemed really nice because you actually took off your headphones to speak to me. No one really does that.
Negz: ::smiles:: That's cause I was having a good day. Well it was nice talking to you HB7, I gotta head out now
We shake hands and this HB7 doesn't let go for a while and continues smiling and talking. So wtf, was this her extreme gaming for donations or not. I would've # closed otherwise.
Whatever it was I didn't care during the convo, I felt no pressure. Just looked at it as a regular conversation. THIS is the right mindset to have when approaching people. Makes them feel comfortable and it eases the situation. I finally realized that this is what people mean when they say "don't go in expected an f or # close."
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