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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So this woman expressed interest at a matrimonial site

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Before you stone me, I had created the profile ages ago and never been logging into it. It has a good looking photo of me before I fu**ing lost all my hair.
2 days ago I received email notification that some woman expressed interest in me. I was in a dilemma whether to accept it because
1. I have not achieved my heart's content of dating and having sex with multiple women. Only recently I have stopped sarging for a while because of heavy feelings over my bald head and am applying some medication to regrow hair.

2. She is located halfway across teh country and I feel idiotic having to maintain a LDR as if there are no chicks available loclly.

3. I thought she is good looking but not evoking sexual feelings in me. My testosterone would have gotten better over my reasoning 1 & 2 if a hot looking babe had expressed interest, but in case of this woman I was still in a dilemma.

4. And lastly she doesn't know my bald head from the picture she had seen.

But still I ended up accepting her interest and a day later she emailed me her contact number.
Then again after I saw a hot woman walking on the street, I felt she is not evoking feelings like this babe does, and am seriosly thinking of apologizing for accepting interest or altogether removing my profile.
Here is her profile http://www.jeevansathi.com/profile/viewprofile.php?search=1&username=TSA5782&&overwrite=1&stype=4
What do you guys think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok I know this thread is sh!t but all I want to know is how you rate that woman. I just want to convince myself that my bar is not very high.
 

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lol.
She isnt repulsive looking, seems to have varied interests. I think its obvious that she isnt long term relationship potential, doesnt mean to say you cant have fun, providing you can put some lead in your pencil.

A few friends registered on a lot of these matrimonial sites, single muslim, shaadi.com and say they are crawling with people just looking to get laid, guys and girls, so why would this one be any different? you could try yor luck, and build on the expereince yo were talking about. Would love to see your profile on there though :)
 
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Cinamon said:
A few friends registered on a lot of these matrimonial sites, single muslim, shaadi.com and say they are crawling with people just looking to get laid, guys and girls, so why would this one be any different
Well that's news to me. I don't know if there is any truth to it. In my opinion that happens only with dating websites (read: websites with names that don't translate to marriage) in India - fropper.com, match.com, date.com . You find desperate guys there and any female profile is either fake or a h00ker/pimp.

I'm worried with the implied assumption when I join a matrimonial site. for ex. this one profile i posted is from jeevansathi.com which means "life partner".
If it were a dating site I wouldn't be afraid to meet up with her.
 

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She also makes a million to a million.5 a year!!! Reverse gold-digger!!! :yawn:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You not planning to post a link to your profile then i take it ;)
 

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There is a high probability that it is a fake profile. I find it hard to believe someone would show interest in an inactive profile.
 
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There is a high probability that it is a fake profile. I find it hard to believe someone would show interest in an inactive profile.
I know it is not a fake profile. We both were non-paying members and when I accepted her interest I was a bit relived to see the message that I can't write her a message as she is a non-paying member. But the next day she had upgraded to be a paid-member and messaged me.
Its been 5 days since that, and I'm yet to respond. In the meantime she has made her photo non-public and made her profile more elaborate. It is obvious from her profile she lives with the "meet a man, live happily ever after" dream, and that she is a good woman. I'm still in a dilemma whether to call her because I'm a bad man although one not getting any a$$.
In the past I remember being swept off my feet for a little while by 2 women but then ended up being rejected, and I have had momentary monogamous mentality during those times. But given that I only live once, I don't see what good a monogamous relationship can do.
 
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So I finally thought I will call her up and may after interacting for a few weeks, will fly to her city for a date. So I called her. Called it quits when she said we should interact on phone for a few weeks, then inform our parents about this person we are interactng with, and then meet up (implying, with their permission).
Also deleted my profile permanently form the site.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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