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so this is an interesting little story about a girl in my class.....

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so there is this girl in my college class,keep in mind I just turned 30... lil bit of a long read but worth it,I think at least...
I take grad level bio's,etc... however my math backround is weak and they made me take a calc2(which is not basic but a few up so anyway...)


been glancing back and forth for a couple weeks,smiles,etc...

started saying hello a few days ago and slowly building up to more convo....


so we sit next to each other throw some more smiles back and forth during class,etc...whisper a word here and there as professor is talking.....

problem is I cannot get more then a 20 sec convo going,she is talking to a friend outside every class till professor walks in and leaves right after...

there was a fire drill too and I was last one out and she was by door what almost looked like she was waiting for me so she flashed me a big smile and I did back..while outside she tried striking up some small talk...

~normally I would say she is closing herself off,but she could smile once and not look in my direction..... etc etc... even does the hair flip once and a while...
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today I finally said forget this,and basically after class just said "hey have a minute?" she said sure........
I said,you don't have class? she said no. I said ok so how are you with the material? she said very well,I said would you like to get together and study for everything,kind of review...since the professor did not do much....


she said "sure,when?" she told me her schedule and we pretty much set something up for friday since we both have classes rest of today and neither one of us has classes on monday....

so we are walking out and just kind of talking... she is telling me about this other class she has later and im telling her about a class I had earlier..as we are walking out I told her about a similar class I had in undergrad...*now keep in mind im not really seeing big IOI's here..(hair flips,light touching,etc...) def a lot of eye contact,thats about it...

~so then she goes,"wait,how old are you?" im like how old do I look? she thought I was 22,shes like are you in 20's or 30's..etc? I said I just turned 30... no real reaction,keep talking as we are walking out of bldg....

***soo then I asked how old she is,thinking 19-23 .............
she said " im 17" lol my jaw dropped basically,one because she is taking calc 2 basically out of hs and two bc im like hmmmmm that kind of changes things lol....



cliffs::: even if she was older,she didn't seem AS interested as I thought,however she could have just said she is busy or said she had to run after class,etc etc...

she then asked for my #....so I said oh great she must like me somewhat, OR im thinking maybe she wants mine so she just does not call???

by then I was nervous as all heck,so I said just email me on the school website lol


*** email her a few days ago,say hey what's up when are you free monday,she gets back within an hr saying Hi how are you? tells me when she is free and when she is not....

email back and forth a couple times to get where exactly on campus and what time... yesterday afternoon says " sounds good! "

email later on at night(but did not read till I was on campus today) saying...

" hey something came up last minute and I can't make it. im sorry. try emailing one of the other guys from class to meet up maybe"



what the heck lol... I have heard it all about the age thing etc... first off I would not take her out for coffee till she was 18 even though 17 is legal here.. but the mixed signals aside( or at least what seemed to me mixed)

pretty ticked I came here early to meet now nothing to do for another hr lol
 

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swolex said:
so we are walking out and just kind of talking... she is telling me about this other class she has later and im telling her about a class I had earlier..as we are walking out I told her about a similar class I had in undergrad...*now keep in mind im not really seeing big IOI's here..(hair flips,light touching,etc...) def a lot of eye contact,thats about it...
Here's the thing that bothers me about what I've read. It seems like you're looking for all this IOI crap way too much. I do fairly well with women, and I can't think of the last time I looked for "hair flips" or that other nonsense.

If I want to see if a girl is interested, I just talk to her. Not all PUA-style, but just socially. Does she laugh at my jokes....does she ask me questions...stuff like that. Basically, you gotta dive in instead of waiting for IOI's. Because IOIs could be entirely imaginary.


what the heck lol... I have heard it all about the age thing etc... first off I would not take her out for coffee till she was 18 even though 17 is legal here.. but the mixed signals aside( or at least what seemed to me mixed)

pretty ticked I came here early to meet now nothing to do for another hr lol
Girls of all ages are flaky, but yeah, I couldnt imagine building plans around a 17 year old.

Either way...I don't believe in mixed signals. And you shouldn't either. It's either "yes" or "no". If I'm confused about a girl's feelings towards me at all, then it's a "no."
 

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Iceberg said:
Here's the thing that bothers me about what I've read. It seems like you're looking for all this IOI crap way too much. I do fairly well with women, and I can't think of the last time I looked for "hair flips" or that other nonsense.

If I want to see if a girl is interested, I just talk to her. Not all PUA-style, but just socially. Does she laugh at my jokes....does she ask me questions...stuff like that. Basically, you gotta dive in instead of waiting for IOI's. Because IOIs could be entirely imaginary.




Girls of all ages are flaky, but yeah, I couldnt imagine building plans around a 17 year old.

Either way...I don't believe in mixed signals. And you shouldn't either. It's either "yes" or "no". If I'm confused about a girl's feelings towards me at all, then it's a "no."

I actually agree,however I think it was because I was on the fence about talking to her in the first place...

I just emailed back with "sounds good" and nothing else...
 

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Iceberg said:
Here's the thing that bothers me about what I've read. It seems like you're looking for all this IOI crap way too much. I do fairly well with women, and I can't think of the last time I looked for "hair flips" or that other nonsense.

If I want to see if a girl is interested, I just talk to her. Not all PUA-style, but just socially. Does she laugh at my jokes....does she ask me questions...stuff like that. Basically, you gotta dive in instead of waiting for IOI's. Because IOIs could be entirely imaginary.




Either way...I don't believe in mixed signals. And you shouldn't either. It's either "yes" or "no". If I'm confused about a girl's feelings towards me at all, then it's a "no."
that is the whole reason for the thread,I do well too and I am usually pretty good at when a women is interested or not or in this case a girl I guess...

1 time is one thing,but 3-4 glances right at you and smiling majority of the time is another on top of the other stuff... but like you said regardless of who it is,it could be imaginary....


also,what are the odds she really did intend on coming but a friend thought the age gap was strange and talked her out of it and was worried about w friends think...even if a friend didn't mind you know how some women are w jealousy.... strange stuff.

a glance here and there is one thing but when it's 4-5 times a class for weeks on end... lol like I said im a lil ticked I came here early too,then again if I checked my email last night I would have seen.
 
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