"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So this Christian girl..

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My last thread got deleted for reasons unknown to me, but basically it was about me going out with a very christian/homeschooled girl, but her being a little hesitant. She's American, but she lives in China which is where I met her.

We made out on new years eve but she freaked out afterwards, I arranged to meet up again but she cancelled. I called her but she didn't reply. That's when I posted here.

After getting advice that I didn't really buy, I just followed my gut, which told me she was still in to me and it really was about the religion thing. I sent her a message "If I call you now, are you gonna pick up? :) I just want to talk". She replied and I called her later and we talked about random stuff for a while. I didn't ask her out again and I acted like it was pretty much the last time we would talk. I had a good feeling about it.

She texts me the next day saying she's thinking about me which I ignored, but called her back in the evening. I told to her to not freak out, but I wanted to see her again and jokingly promised her I would be on my "best behavior". she agreed. We met up Sunday for lunch, then went to watch Narnia.
Let's put it this way. I have no idea what the fvck happened in that movie :rolleyes: We went to a park afterwards and it started snowing (thank you jesus). I think she got over the religion thing cause she was supposed to go to church, but she skipped it. We went to a nice empty coffee shop to warm up and I almost did her right there.

The next day was my last day in the country, so I stopped by her house before meeting up with my friends and holy **** I am sure we would have had sex if it wasn't for logistics. I always take the "after-text" you get as a good indicator of how a date went so I'll let this speak for itself.

"that was amazing, not going to forget it. you make me go crazy. sorry for biting you lol. i'm really glad you came. i have your smell on me now ;)"

I guess it is true that the girls you least expect are the freakiest. :D

So it all turned out pretty well, I'm back in the US now, wondering how I should keep her into me for the next time I see her so we can get it on. In all honesty I like her alot, she's cooler than most girls and she tries hard to please me. I love discovering her inner freak. Plus she's REALLY hot. I'll still date others girl while I'm here, but I definitely want to hold on to this one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I guess I miss judged her, how could come up with such a conclusion with so little information.

Looks like you found a religious girl.. not a Christian
 

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Well, you were pretty much right with your analysis. She was acting in the way you described, but some how she just kind of forgot about all that as I pushed forward. Thanks anyway though, your advice probably helped the most. It helped me figure out where her mind was at and ease her worries and guilt, which were stupid to begin with in my opinion.
 
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