"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So this Christian girl..

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My last thread got deleted for reasons unknown to me, but basically it was about me going out with a very christian/homeschooled girl, but her being a little hesitant. She's American, but she lives in China which is where I met her.

We made out on new years eve but she freaked out afterwards, I arranged to meet up again but she cancelled. I called her but she didn't reply. That's when I posted here.

After getting advice that I didn't really buy, I just followed my gut, which told me she was still in to me and it really was about the religion thing. I sent her a message "If I call you now, are you gonna pick up? :) I just want to talk". She replied and I called her later and we talked about random stuff for a while. I didn't ask her out again and I acted like it was pretty much the last time we would talk. I had a good feeling about it.

She texts me the next day saying she's thinking about me which I ignored, but called her back in the evening. I told to her to not freak out, but I wanted to see her again and jokingly promised her I would be on my "best behavior". she agreed. We met up Sunday for lunch, then went to watch Narnia.
Let's put it this way. I have no idea what the fvck happened in that movie :rolleyes: We went to a park afterwards and it started snowing (thank you jesus). I think she got over the religion thing cause she was supposed to go to church, but she skipped it. We went to a nice empty coffee shop to warm up and I almost did her right there.

The next day was my last day in the country, so I stopped by her house before meeting up with my friends and holy **** I am sure we would have had sex if it wasn't for logistics. I always take the "after-text" you get as a good indicator of how a date went so I'll let this speak for itself.

"that was amazing, not going to forget it. you make me go crazy. sorry for biting you lol. i'm really glad you came. i have your smell on me now ;)"

I guess it is true that the girls you least expect are the freakiest. :D

So it all turned out pretty well, I'm back in the US now, wondering how I should keep her into me for the next time I see her so we can get it on. In all honesty I like her alot, she's cooler than most girls and she tries hard to please me. I love discovering her inner freak. Plus she's REALLY hot. I'll still date others girl while I'm here, but I definitely want to hold on to this one.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I guess I miss judged her, how could come up with such a conclusion with so little information.

Looks like you found a religious girl.. not a Christian
 

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Well, you were pretty much right with your analysis. She was acting in the way you described, but some how she just kind of forgot about all that as I pushed forward. Thanks anyway though, your advice probably helped the most. It helped me figure out where her mind was at and ease her worries and guilt, which were stupid to begin with in my opinion.
 
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