So there's this girl in my class...

[PolandSpring]

She sits behind me in bio and is in my english class at the end of the day, but sits all the way across the room. Our conversations rarely leave the topic of school, but we do laugh a bit.

the problem is that since she sits behind me, its kinda awkward to turn around in the middle of class to speak, and I usually end up sitting sideways. The teacher doesnt really give us much time to ourselves, so we rarely talk for more than a minute or two at a time. given my position its pretty tough to kino, joke around etc. I think she likes me but I'm not sure. Any tips on what I can do? I want to aim to get her #this friday . ( no school next week)

thanks, guys.

 

[PleasureKing]

talk to her out of class. dont put unneeded pressure on yourself. be smooth, and be cool. remember, dont mess up now, so next week you can have fun with her, =].

dont get your hopes up too high though. (most people make this mistake, and end up getting really depressed if they dont get the #)

 

[PolandSpring]

Thanks for the speedy reply. I doubt I'll lose too much sleep if things go sour. I'm just concerned that too little of a rapport has been built up. I haven't really shown any signs that I'm interested (which i suppose i have trouble with) so it seems like it may catch her totally off guard when i ask.

I shouldn't talk to her friends or anything like that, should I?

 

[PleasureKing]

I shouldn't talk to her friends or anything like that, should I?

Your basically asking me, "should i take a one way ticket to hell? i think it would be fun."

no, dont ask her friends. your the man, view yourself as the great catch. if you must, bait her sometime outside of class. strike a conversation with her, and apply kino (because you are interested in her. you wont need kino if you already view yourself as a sexual being, so it all depends on your beliefs). talk about something you have in common. it could be something really small, something school related if you have to, but try to shift the conversation towards her. make her talk about herself, her views, her ideas. if she asks you something about yourself, be general and then throw something back at her and keep it that way. once you get a woman started talking about herself, it becomes hard for her to stop. in the end, she will think your a really cool guy thats "different" than the rest, and really understands her, when all in all, you just nodded, took a keyword from her replies, and rephrased what she already told you in the conversation.

ok i hope your not confused. im just typing whatever is coming to my mind, and im not looking back to try to fix any small spelling or grammatical errors.

so here, i decided to make a list.

1. talk to her out of class
2. talk about a common interest
3. focus the conversation towards her
4. apply light kino only if you can handle its power. (kino is really powerful, it will immediately make her think your interested)
5. end the conversation on a high note

somehow, maybe the next day, tell her it would be FUN to do something together during the winter break. tell her you are looking forward to something EXCITING and FUN, and you wouldnt mind if she tags along. if/when she acts what do you have in mind, tell her "how bout you write down your number, and ill surprise you when you least expect it". be confident, say it like you already know what you want to do during the winter break with her. but whatever you do, dont make something up and tell her, make her fantasize about what could be on your mind.

if you get her #, you then have some time to sit down, relax, and come up with some fun date idea. dont WORRY though. if you worry, she will worry. if your nervous, she will be nervous. if your HAPPY, she will be happy. and happiness is what you seek, am i correct?


in the end good luck, (you dont need it though, your a natural), and have fun.

peace
The PleasureKing

 

[PolandSpring]

PleasureKing, you are the man.

a little update: we had a sub in class today, so i took advantage of the opportunity and spoke with her all period. she did the vast majority of the talking, and whenever there was a little lull in the conversation she would always add something else to keep it going. I made some jokes and kept the focus on her pretty much the entire time.

I feel much more confident about friday

 

[tucking fypo]

PolandSpring, nice job talking to her the whole period when the sub was there. Also if you know where she hangs out at lunch i suggest approaching her and talking to her =]

IMO: i wouldn't ask her # yet. IMO it's to early. If i were you i'd give, her something on friday and say merry christmas or something like that and make her think about you for 2 whole weeks. Maybe if you find her myspace or w/e she has, Add her there and talk to her and then maybe ask for her # and plan a date - but thats just me. yeah...

 

[PolandSpring]

thanks for the input.
Anyone else think it would be better to wait? She doesnt have a myspace or facebook,(I wouldn't wanna do this online anyway, that seems kinda wussy) and we have no off periods together.

 

[PleasureKing]

thanks for the input.
Anyone else think it would be better to wait? She doesnt have a myspace or facebook,(I wouldn't wanna do this online anyway, that seems kinda wussy) and we have no off periods together.

Wait? Believe it or not, you probably already gave the impression to her that you have "waited".

Remember, you are the great catch, you are the MAN. You are pre-occupied with your life, and she isnt your #1 concern. YOU should ask yourself, "Is she good enough for me?", instead of "I hope she likes me back". Be mature as well, never act like someone your not.

You said she talked with you for the entire period? Thats a sign of interest. Go for it! Get her number.

Your just 1 line away from getting her # and finding out if she is worth your time.

peace
The PleasureKing