Alright, there's this girl that I'm attracted to in my grade who's name is Jacquie(pronounced Jackie). What I'm looking for is some advice on how I should approach her in this situation. I had Biology and Band with Jacquie last year, so she already knows who I am, however, we don't have any classes together this year. Recently, I've started saying "Hey Jacquie" to her and she responds "Hey" but not with my name, which is why I'm sort of worried she might've forgotten my name. As far as I know, we already have two things in common, we both play an instrument, and we both do track. Another thing that worries me, is the fact that she talks to a lot of guys, but doesn't have a boyfriend yet. How do I know I just won't become another one of her guy friends? That definitely worries me. She's in the same lunch period as I am, but an obstacle that keeps me from approaching her is her friends. How could I isolate her? Also something I'd like to know. I know by now you guys are probably tired of reading this, so yeah.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So there's this girl I want to take to the prom...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Man your trying to leap before you can even crawl. Stop worrying so much about the prom and stop worrying about this one girl. You have to be proactive about this.
Go out and learn how to get good with women in general and then you'll be able to get the specific women that you want.
Your being reactive and wondering about things that are irrelevant.
The only way you get put in the friend zone is if you don't escalate. So so longs you escalate you won't get put in the friend zone.
The thing about getting isolation is you have to know how to handle the group before you can even think about isolating.
First of all can you open comfortably?
Can you gain some sort of attraction and keep attention comfortably?
Are you comfortable with touching and being touched?
Are you in the right mindset? (Unreactive, frame control, etc)
Are you comfortable being center of attention and holding groups?
If your answer is no then your not going to get much results from this one set. An that is why you need to go out and approach tons of women so you can get that calibration and become comfortable with everything. Stop worrying about this little problem when you really have a bigger problem.
You must be proactive and go through the whole process. Stop looking for the magic pill.
Go out and learn how to get good with women in general and then you'll be able to get the specific women that you want.
Your being reactive and wondering about things that are irrelevant.
The only way you get put in the friend zone is if you don't escalate. So so longs you escalate you won't get put in the friend zone.
The thing about getting isolation is you have to know how to handle the group before you can even think about isolating.
First of all can you open comfortably?
Can you gain some sort of attraction and keep attention comfortably?
Are you comfortable with touching and being touched?
Are you in the right mindset? (Unreactive, frame control, etc)
Are you comfortable being center of attention and holding groups?
If your answer is no then your not going to get much results from this one set. An that is why you need to go out and approach tons of women so you can get that calibration and become comfortable with everything. Stop worrying about this little problem when you really have a bigger problem.
You must be proactive and go through the whole process. Stop looking for the magic pill.
I have been approaching women, sure I'm not that good yet, but I've been approaching them. I have to say "no" to most of those since I've never really gotten far with any girls, but I really don't have to do that. Why am I so concerned with prom? That's my goal, to get a date to the prom. If she rejects me, she rejects me, it is what it is. I just need something to open with. Also, we already have two things in common, so I just have to work that into the conversation.Snow Plowman said:
Do you know any of her friends? If so, that provides you with an alternative entry method that I remember for the Bible---essentially, you go into the group not focused on the target, but on somebody else, allowing you to feel more comfortable opening (and thus looking and feeling loads more confident).
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
we all eat food
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just do it, grow a pair
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i have an idea... search all of your old old threads... theres plenty of info in them... who needs the bible when you can search for Vipers old threads with plenty of advice in them?
Listen, I made this post because I need advice on this situation. If you're not going to give any, then you're wasting your time. Either got advice or you don't. Trust me, if I wanted advice on one of those past situations, I would of just looked in those past threads, but that is not the case.Michele said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Oh God...it's like Flowers for Algernon---he's regressing...
But seriously, that is good advice---I looked at some of "Mr. Confidence's" old threads out of amusement, and the advice on their---namely, to suck it up, grab your ballz, and do so.
I'm still working on my game, but I have realized one thing---it's not Mario Bros. You can't go get a walkthrough, 'cause it ain't how life works. You said earlier that prom means a lot to you, so then just do it...
But seriously, that is good advice---I looked at some of "Mr. Confidence's" old threads out of amusement, and the advice on their---namely, to suck it up, grab your ballz, and do so.
I'm still working on my game, but I have realized one thing---it's not Mario Bros. You can't go get a walkthrough, 'cause it ain't how life works. You said earlier that prom means a lot to you, so then just do it...
Oh God...it's like Flowers for Algernon---he's regressing...
But seriously, that is good advice---I looked at some of "Mr. Confidence's" old threads out of amusement, and the advice on their---namely, to suck it up, grab your ballz, and do so.
I'm still working on my game, but I have realized one thing---it's not Mario Bros. You can't go get a walkthrough, 'cause it ain't how life works. You said earlier that prom means a lot to you, so then just do it...
But seriously, that is good advice---I looked at some of "Mr. Confidence's" old threads out of amusement, and the advice on their---namely, to suck it up, grab your ballz, and do so.
I'm still working on my game, but I have realized one thing---it's not Mario Bros. You can't go get a walkthrough, 'cause it ain't how life works. You said earlier that prom means a lot to you, so then just do it...
Well, if that's all the advice you got and really can't give anymore advice, I should've never made this thread. I got the balls to do it, it's just that I needed advice. Basically, you've told me so far what I already know. Oh well, looks I'm going to have to solve this on my own, not getting much help here.EdHunter said:Oh God...it's like Flowers for Algernon---he's regressing...
But seriously, that is good advice---I looked at some of "Mr. Confidence's" old threads out of amusement, and the advice on their---namely, to suck it up, grab your ballz, and do so.
I'm still working on my game, but I have realized one thing---it's not Mario Bros. You can't go get a walkthrough, 'cause it ain't how life works. You said earlier that prom means a lot to you, so then just do it...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
It shouldn't be rocket science, you should already have a structure that you can atleast use as a guideline that way your not in this situation saying "I don't know what to say."
You already know her so opening shouldn't even be a problem...Just pump Buying temperature a bit and then basically vibe for a bit. Ask her and see what happens.
The way that I got my prom date (Even though I'm not going no more) is I used roleplaying. Baiscally told the girl I'm taking a helicopter she could come, went into a story about how she could join or would say they only have a week to tell me because we have reharsals for the drop in. Then went chilled for a bit and actually told her I'd really go with her.
It took calibration because the girls didn't know if I was serious or not until one girl came back to me and told me that I was playing with girls feelings because they didn't know if I was serious or not.
The thing is these things are so formal (AFC) that you think you have to ask her to go to the prom with you. If your dominant and have a strong frame you could be joking with her and tell her that she is going with you. An maybe you can even tell her what she is wearing and telling her how everything will go.
Like I said its not rocket science...with that in mind find a structure that you can use because then you'll find yourself scrambling around wondering what should I do next and stuff like that.
You already know her so opening shouldn't even be a problem...Just pump Buying temperature a bit and then basically vibe for a bit. Ask her and see what happens.
The way that I got my prom date (Even though I'm not going no more) is I used roleplaying. Baiscally told the girl I'm taking a helicopter she could come, went into a story about how she could join or would say they only have a week to tell me because we have reharsals for the drop in. Then went chilled for a bit and actually told her I'd really go with her.
It took calibration because the girls didn't know if I was serious or not until one girl came back to me and told me that I was playing with girls feelings because they didn't know if I was serious or not.
The thing is these things are so formal (AFC) that you think you have to ask her to go to the prom with you. If your dominant and have a strong frame you could be joking with her and tell her that she is going with you. An maybe you can even tell her what she is wearing and telling her how everything will go.
Like I said its not rocket science...with that in mind find a structure that you can use because then you'll find yourself scrambling around wondering what should I do next and stuff like that.
Well, if you're going to AIM me, do it around 5:00-8:00PM Eastern, that's when I'll be available. But if you can, just AIM me around 5. Anyways, I'm having second thoughts about Jacquie, or even going to the prom in the first place. I'm just having doubts about Jacquie, something about her that's making me have doubts. As for the prom, I can't find any girls to approach at lunch, therefore I won't be able to find a date. I heard some bad things about prom too.superchill89 said:
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Go to the prom. You don't want to regret missing it just because you couldn't find a girl. There should be girls everywhere at lunch, with their friends. Just approach them, preferably ones you don't know so theres very little social reprocussions.
Dude, just stop whining and ask her. The worst she can do is say no. Whether you want to run some game or not beforehand is up to you, but the bottom line is: not asking has the exact same consequences as getting rejected. There is only one way to succeed, and that is by asking her.