"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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j0504s

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ok, let me start by saying I have been along way, since I joined sosuave. I didn't join to learn how to get women that was not my problem. I joined like alot of us b/c of the BPD ex...that ate me alive...Help from Cordoncordon, Harrywilmington, Purefilth, naughtyninja etc etc (sry if I did not post your name)...really helped me. I have made it back to sanity and have got 10 numbers in 2 weeks I am on a roll...some of these girls I kinda got there numbers just for practice, but all hb6.5-hb8's. Reguardless...im doing well...so thank you to the so suave community!

Now the point of this thread:
I use to live in NY till about 2 years ago, I had lived there almost all my life...There was a girl I know through, friends...before I met her, I was attarcted to her b/c of pictures and what not, we met one weekend When I lived in Ianother country to study for the year b/c she was there as well...I was on a break from an LTR, and we hit it off very very well...she and I flirted all weekend and what not, and even asked my friend (female) what was the deal with my LTR? she answered with we were on a break...YOU NEED to know one thing about this girl...she is not the avg. girl we speak about on sosuave. this girl is deff. still a virgin (maybe had sex once idk thought as of 2 years ago she was) and maybe has kissed a couple guys and some more at this point. SHE IS BY NO MEANS premiscious...By looks she is an HB8.5+ but her personality brings her higher

that weekend i did not hook up with her (i was 18 and was alot less confident then) but also at that point she had not even KISSED a guy!

everytime id see her in the city we'd flirt and she'd always flock to me but I never got a chance to esculate...

Oddly enough I had a dream about her last night, and it was a spiritualesc dream. it was strange but I was with her, and i was happier then I ever been. (and im pretty damn happy right now).

I have not thought about her or seen her in maybe 2 years+
Im going back to NY soon to visit for a couple weeks...I want to see her...I have her email...(I dont use facebook anymore I deleted, the chicks where catching up with me and got me introuble a couple times)

what would be a good email to send her to open the convo, but I dont want to come off as, I just want to see how u are in a friend way...IDK I am a very spiritual person and believe everything happends for a reason...it was odd i had a dream about her when i havent thought about her in a very very long time.

I have plenty of options these days and more to come but I'd Like to start spinning this plate....What is the best way to approach this email?

Thank you,
J0504S
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your putting her on a pedestal already: There aint nothing special about her bro...find out where she is and say hi. Bing. Bam. Boom...done. Take it from there.
 

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Trailboss said:
Your putting her on a pedestal already: There aint nothing special about her bro...find out where she is and say hi. Bing. Bam. Boom...done. Take it from there.
b/c I see her as actually someone i would date, doesnt mean i am whorshipping her by any means trust I am very exprienced in this, and i currently have many options as well as plates spinning and ive only been back for 2 weeks b/c I displayed what i like about her doesnt mean as you stated. the fact that I'm currently filtering the girls I want to speak to speaks volumes on my standards... I am simply asking how this email should be worded...With out looking creepy or needy? basicly what should i say more then hi, im sure shes going ot be curious what triggered me to email her?
 

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YAboi said:
send her a mail saying hi, reintroducing yourself, and finally ask for her number then give her a call like normal people do.
honestly now that i look at this I relize i need to get her phone number asap and exchange as few emails as possible....its like texting kills relationships i deff. think emailing does aswell.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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First, congrats on getting back into the swing of things. I had full confidence in you!

As for what to write....I would go with something like this.

Hey there XXX! How have you been? I hope well!

Funny thing happened the other night. I was sleeping away and lo and behold I had a dream that you were in. I can't remember the specifics other than the fact it included bunnies, clowns, Irish stepdancers, and you! Haha j/k but it did get me thinking about you, and it just so happens I am headed to NYC for a couple weeks from the xxxth to the xxxth. We should hang out and catch up.

Let me know if you are going to be around then and we can work something out.

Talk soon!

jo504s
 

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cordoncordon said:
First, congrats on getting back into the swing of things. I had full confidence in you!

As for what to write....I would go with something like this.

Hey there XXX! How have you been? I hope well!

Funny thing happened the other night. I was sleeping away and lo and behold I had a dream that you were in. I can't remember the specifics other than the fact it included bunnies, clowns, Irish stepdancers, and you! Haha j/k but it did get me thinking about you, and it just so happens I am headed to NYC for a couple weeks from the xxxth to the xxxth. We should hang out and catch up.

Let me know if you are going to be around then and we can work something out.

Talk soon!

jo504s
thank you cordoncordon once again, I havent got around to emailing her it slipped my mind till i looked here, gonna do it todaY in a bit. I let you guys know the result.
 
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